What About Rimming? What You Need To Know About Anilingus | The Bottom Chronicles (Entry 4)

What About Rimming? What You Need To Know About Anilingus | The Bottom Chronicles (Entry 4)

Someone recently approached me on twitter with all these questions about Rimming, which made me realize that this was one sexual pleasure that is very little known.

So, I did a little research, and combined with my own personal experience, here is what I was able to come up with regarding the art of rimming.

First of all, the oral-to-anal act goes by varied names such as “Eating ass”, “bum licking” and “tossing the salad”. It is a sexual act that is loved by many. So many, in fact, that Google searches around the topic are through the roof – including those looking for the official definition of rimming or the top tips for giving a great ass job. In my own case even, I only enjoy porn that has lots of rimming in them otherwise I won’t be getting any pleasure from watching it.

Now, as aforementioned, in spite of its wide appeal, it would appear that people still have questions about rimming. And so, here are some answers.

First Of All, What Is Rimming?

Rimming is the act of sexually stimulating someone’s anus by licking or sucking it. It is popular among same-sex male couples but is practiced by people of all sexual orientations and genders.

Does It Hurt?

As with all sexual acts, unless a controlled level of safe pain is intended, then rimming shouldn’t hurt.

Communication with your partner or partners is key in ensuring that everyone consents and is comfortable in any sexual situation and that everyone gets the maximum pleasure possible from eating ass or having their ass eaten.

Particularly with anal play, and the first time or times trying it out, taking it slow and saying what you like and/or are uncomfortable with is very important. The bum is a sensitive area with lots of nerve endings and should be treated with care.

What Are The Techniques For Rimming?

Rimming is very much up to you, what you are into and what your partner likes. It is usual to use the lips and tongue to stimulate the outside of the anus, and surrounding area. Taking it one step at a time, you can gauge what your partner likes and doesn’t like, alternating from gently stimulating the outer ass before moving slightly further inside to explore with your tongue.

Easier than trying to guess is talking; ask your partner if they like what you’re doing (if you’re the giver) or tell them if you particularly like or don’t like a sensation you’re feeling. This will mean you both get the most out of your new hobby.

The rimming technique depends on the person receiving, how tight and sensitive their bum might be and what they might be into. The key here is for both parties to be as relaxed as possible and feel as confident in their position as they can.

Try out different techniques – different levels of rimming intensity, alternate between depths of penetration using the tongue and gauge what your partner likes through the sounds they make and what they say.

That said, and especially if you are new to rimming, it is advisable not to go straight in for the kill, as it were. Working around your partner’s hole is a good starting point, and being gentle. Not only will this allow you to gauge what they want, but will feel great for the receiver. Then if you want to use your tongue to stimulate further inside, they will be more relaxed and you will be able to tell how they like to have their ass eaten.

Below are some tips on technique:

1: When you’re finally kneeling at the altar of his ass, vary it up.

Aggressive rimmers will go straight for the hole and just lick continuously in the same motion over and over, gradually pushing the tongue deeper and deeper in. While this can feel good, it gets boring after a while and can actually start to wear on the hole. Saliva dries out your skin, and the hole is the last place you want to dry out, especially if rimming is foreplay for sex.

Divide your tongue duty between his hole and the hypersensitive area around it. Make designs and patterns (stars, zigzags, spirals, concentric rings, horizontal licks, vertical licks, quick dots, long strokes, etc.) Tickle the hole with just the tip of your tongue, then thrust your tongue in as deep as it can go. Alternate between the wider, flat part of your tongue and the narrower, probing tip. Do quick, light licks between deep, strong, drawn-out ones.

2: It’s not all about the tongue.

Don’t underestimate the effect of breath on skin. If you’ve ever spooned someone in bed, you know how someone’s breath can feel on your neck. It can tickle or comfort, arouse or annoy, depending on your sensitivity.

Breath is vital to a good rim-job. Making a small “o” with your lips and blowing on an asshole (as you would a birthday candle) can make him moan. This is usually a cooler breath. Alternately, as when you breathe on someone’s neck, an open-mouthed gush of warm breath will moisten the hole and add a tingling feeling of expectation – making him ready for your tongue plunge. Pause. Draw it out. Then dive.

3: Use teeth sparingly, or not at all.

Now this is something that especially annoys me – when the guy doing my ass the honours just doesn’t know that you treat the ass with the same respect as the dick. You service with as little teeth as possible.

Some REALLY good rimmers know how to use teeth (hint: don’t suck in when your teeth are pressed on his hole). If he uses teeth and it feels good, consider this a pro move. I’ve had bad rim jobs where guys used teeth and it felt very unpleasant. Paired with the tongue, teeth can be a nice alternating feeling, a bit of hardness on a hyper-sensitive, soft, tender area. But BY NO MEANS bite, nipple, suck, chew, or get aggressive with teeth. No sir!

4: If you’re scruffy, use it.

Some guys love feeling stubble on their holes and some don’t. This is a personal preference. Best way to find out if he likes it? Ask. Beard and stubble can tickle and create a pleasant texture on his hole, but it can also scratch and irritate it. It all depends on your guy.

5: Don’t be an endless rimmer.

The better you rim, the longer you can do it — but there is a limit. Some bottoms can get rimmed for a long time, but keep in mind that most of us enjoy it as a method of getting the asshole wet and slick for something else. It feels amazing, but after a while, saliva will inevitably start drying things out down there and the rim job will stop feeling great. Read his body language and learn when to cut yourself off.

What about Making Things Down There Clean For Rimming?

There are various steps to ensure you’re clean and ready to go when it comes to rimming.

You can take extra steps to not only clean yourself for your partner but to ensure that you are confident enough to lay back and enjoy your rimming experience with full confidence that you smell and taste great.

1: Shower.

This is probably not necessary to point out, but giving yourself a good scrub on and around the anus area will make sure you smell beautiful as well as taste great. And bear in mind that while showering, you can still miss a spot with soap and water. So here’s what you do. When you get out of the shower, dry off and finger yourself, then sniff. You’ll know if you have to jump back in the shower.

It is best not to use strong smelling soaps around the bum anyway to avoid irritation and other issues, but also avoid using potent-smelling sprays or oils after you get out. You don’t want your partner to have to taste your cologne when they go down on you, even if it does make you smell great.

2: Douche.

It goes without saying that germs and dirt can be spread during oral-to-anal play. Thoroughly cleaning the outside is one thing, but if you are going for some heavy anal play, particularly rimming, it is probably advisable to douche first. But lots of people don’t know how to douche.

Douching involves using water to flush out the lowest part of the colon, getting rid of any poo particles that might be hanging out there, to ensure there are no nasty surprises.

Shower or toilet attachment douches are available on sites like Amazon, and you can get portable versions which are refillable from the tap and have a small nozzle to let you clean yourself wherever you are.

You may be fine without douching as rimming only stimulates the very inside of the anal opening, but if you are going on to other anal play, it is recommended, and in order to feel squeaky clean for your partner to eat your ass, it might be worthwhile if you are just sticking to rimming.

3: Shave.

This is a tricky one. You may be into shaving your anus anyway, in which case it might be more pleasant for your partner, if that’s how they like it.

If you or your partner has a preference when it comes to shaving, that’s fine! The only things to bear in mind are: if there is hair there, to make sure it is extra clean, and if there is not, that the receiver doesn’t shave too close which can cause bumps and nicks – either of these could leave either partner prone to germs and possibly infection. Perhaps trimming rather than shaving might be a happy compromise.

4: Consider using flavoured lubes.

While you have to face up to the fact that you are putting your mouth to someone else’s butthole, flavoured lubes can detract from that fact a little if you are a bit squeamish. While they usually taste a bit chemically, they might help you relax if you are giving someone anilingus for the first time.

How Do I Know If Someone Is Into Rimming?

Ask! Talking to your partner(s) or potential partner(s) is the most important thing. Some people will be into having their starfish eaten out but others will not be up for rimming. Some people may like to go down on your behind and some others just don’t want any of that.

A conversation about wanting to try mouth-to-ass play is really the only way you will be able to tell if a regular partner or hook-up will want to indulge in the act, and will set any boundaries if needed.

But one thing to note is that rimming is really NOTHING to be ashamed of and you should feel comfortable enough to bring it up if you and a partner have never tried rimming before. It’ll also help you to feel relaxed when it comes down to doing the deed.

Is Rimming Safe Or Dangerous?

Eating an ass can be a very pleasurable experience both for giver and receiver. If you’re getting rimmed, you’re pretty safe. Sit back and enjoy. If you’re an ass eater, your risks are greater for contracting gonorrhea, Hepatitis A, harmful amoebas, genital warts, herpes, syphilis (if there’s an open sore), pink eye, and other little gifts.

Getting regularly tested and being treated when you do have an STI is advisable, as for anyone who is sexually active.

Of course, using your mouth to stimulate a partner’s anal opening comes with extra risks of transmitting germs, and has been linked to heightened risks of giardia and other illnesses. But despite this, it is a fairly common sexual practice, and with good hygiene can be enjoyed without much worry.

Over-douching can also cause small cuts in the anal opening and could increase risks, so cleaning properly, but not over doing it is advisable.

To make rimming safer, you can use a dental dam as a barrier which will protect against some STIs. It is a small square of latex which you can use as a barrier between your mouth and their bum to reduce the risk of some STIs. If you can’t find dental dams, you can cut a condom lengthways in order to make your own, and if you are still unsure, you can speak to a health adviser at your local sexual health clinic for advice.

But the most important thing is to enjoy yourself. Relax, embrace it, and enjoy it more than anything. After all, with sex, “anusthing is possible!”


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  1. Cho
    February 23, 14:16 Reply

    First to comment…. Loool! I enjoy being rimmed once in a while

  2. Anita
    February 26, 04:02 Reply

    Lol…the “little gifts” did me in ??..informative

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