A friend of mine hit me up one day and asked me if it was okay to give my number to an acquaintance he made on Twitter. He said the guy is gay but he knew practically no one in the community. I felt a sense of responsibility to get this person acquainted with the basics, and I asked my friend for his contact details. When he sent them to me, I viewed his picture and I was startled to see that the guy was my secondary school senior! I was panicked at first; I didn’t know what to do, and when I spoke to my friend about it, he gave me reassurances.
Let’s call this secondary school senior of mine Tommy. Tommy was two years ahead of me, and I remember students used to make fun of him for being effeminate. After my friend connected us, we started talking and I told him we went to the same secondary school. He told me he didn’t recognize me, and I said yeah, that I wasn’t a popular kid back then. I was always timid and rarely spoke to anyone outside my class.
So, Tommy and I started talking about school, talking about who and who was possibly gay from our experiences back then. I was a day student and told him about the classmate in JSS2 who had grabbed my ass during the morning assembly. Tommy, however, had more stories, and told me of a few guys and all the crazy things they did together. Some of the names he mentioned surprised me, because these boys were very homophobic.
And then he talked about one other guy whose name he mentioned – TJ. The name sounded oddly familiar, and soon, it dawned on me that he was referring to my cousin. TJ was his nickname in school. and he was 3 years my senior. Because of my reserve, me and him hardly interacted in school, and I never sought his attention or protection from other seniors. While keeping the part about TJ being my cousin to myself, I asked Tommy if he was absolutely sure he was gay, and Tommy said he had no reason to lie, that they’d run things together back then.
So now, intrigued, I’m wondering what I should do with this information? How do I verify that TJ is indeed gay? And if he is, how do I forge a connection with him as his fellow gay cousin?
Submitted by Kole