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  1. Uchennna
    December 20, 2019

    I feel your pain. The people who find success with grindr are the ones who are able to remain detached no matter what. They’ve trained them selves to be completely aloof to emotional attachments whatsoever there. People meet,fuck and keep it moving. I guess that’s ONE of the reasons he was able to just move on so quickly, despite all the time y’all spent chatting.

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  2. Higwe
    December 20, 2019

    Sweetie , WhatsApp app takes like 5 minutes to download .

    All the time you spent sending him from Michigan to Delta to confirm your authenticity – you could have simply downloaded the app , given him a video call or something and then deleted it.

    I know we dump a lot of shit on Nigeria , but this one is not on her , it’s all you .

    While your reason for removing yourself from all social media platforms seems valid …still being an active user of Grindr ( the place where 70 percent of all kito stories are orchestrated ) definitely enervates your claim .

    Leo made the right decision.

    Keep shooting your shots though …maybe one day you might just land a stray that doesn’t mind being taken anywhere….even where the trenches are overflowing , the windows broken and the door ajar to a million questions . 😎

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    • Ikenna
      December 20, 2019

      Higwe! Exactly what I wanted to say😍😍😍

      You’re amazing.

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    • BRYAN PETERS
      December 21, 2019

      Simply put, plain and apt.

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  3. Lyon
    December 20, 2019

    Wow! You know at some point I really thought this was me you wrote about, until you started going into the specifics. I really cannot blame you. Nigeria really happened to us and we’re suffering the effects.

    Actually, I chatted with a guy on Grindr and to this day he has chosen to keep so much of him hidden from me. We met at an eatery where I invited him to. I got so turned off when I had to lend him some money but I decided to let it go because we all get broke once in a while.

    We still chat once in a while but I’m not sure of where we stand right now.

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    • Tristan
      December 21, 2019

      That means you are hot? Maybe we should start from here, Lyon😉

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  4. J
    December 20, 2019

    You have a right to make your decisions and don’t allow anyone to try to change your set rules to suit their personal interest. It’s a form of control, the moment you give in, you’re doomed. Don’t get over excited with people online , most people lost interest when they notice you’re a bit obsessed with them. Why be jumping up and down when you haven’t met him in person? Pictures can lie, he could have body or mouth odor or the attitude of a scum… Imagine how he ghosted you as if you don’t matter. Some people have a very low self-esteem, the moment you put them above you they see you as desperate, a low life who doesn’t deserve the best. They prefer a challenge, someone who thinks they’re not good enough so they can work hard to get him/her.

    You deserve better honey, someone who will reason with you and make effort. Don’t waste your time with people that leave you to do all the work. Anyone that leaves your message on read for an hour or two is not worth your stress. I have been bullied and traumatized by narcissists, so I know their tricks. I have become so sensitive that I read meaning to how people reply my messages, talk to me and even the faces they make when I am talking. I don’t hesitate to delete whatsapp contacts or facebook friends, yes I don’t have that kind of patience and I don’t need it. You can call me St Felicia, sister of farewells 😂 No time to waste, delete them sharp sharp. You don’t need them in your life. Try to be honest and always tell yourself that you deserve better and you won’t settle for abuse.

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    • Mike
      December 21, 2019

      Mehn, can I say I love you? Or atleast in love with your discernment skill. It’s pure low self-esteem hidden underneath pride. I’m a confident nigga, if I like you I will go crazy, it is within my right too. But when you let it get in your head or start to treat me like crap, cause you think I actually like you, hmm Oyo. I’mma just walk.
      I text you, you don’t reply cause your forming celebrity, when you text, I will revenge, it’s really that simple. Treat others the way you’d like to be treated.
      A confident person wears their heart on their sleeves, cause they know that regardless of what happens, nothing can really touch them.
      Sometimes, God gives people a fine exterior but forgot to develop them on the inside, making them equally beautiful inside.
      So I no dey do low self-esteem, i like you better when your confident and know how to handle yourself.

      Sage. All this advance chyking skills over a picture, na wa for you o. Never ever trip for anyone whose yet to prove themselves to you. In as much as your a nice person, you can only control yourself n your reaction, it’s their job to meet you halfway. Nigerians generally have a problem, and it’s called over sabi sabi. They leave the real thing and glamour over fake ideals. Understand this, expect the worst but be positive and let everything fall into place.

      Grindr is a place for narcissist, a person with this your nature should not be on Grindr, they will eat you raw, dust you off and Waka, cause you’re not a wolf, those people are hungry wolves. Anybody I meet on Grindr is mostly for naughty play online, hardly anything else.
      You should adopt the same, unless you’re ready to play that berated game.

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    • KingB
      December 21, 2019

      I owe you Xmas brunch bro. I so much thank God I realized this very early in my life. Do not get overly excited when you meet someone online or offline. Do not do all the work. Let him show he desires u as well. It is hard work surviving as a gay man in this country if you aren’t confident, posses a high level of self esteem and Self love.

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  5. Sage Philip
    December 20, 2019

    Didnt know you still have this story.

    BTW, Am back on s0cial media now and am no more the one shooting the shot. Whenever am in lagos we will surely hookup.

    gp0 0 ph

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  6. Kazuna
    December 30, 2019

    I don’t even know how to connect. A terrible Introvert, I am

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