This Lesbian opens up about sleeping with 100 men to try and ‘make’ herself straight

This Lesbian opens up about sleeping with 100 men to try and ‘make’ herself straight

A lesbian has opened up about the desperate measures she took in an attempt to make her straight.

Writing in an op-ed for the Sun newspaper, 22-year-old Charlotte Malley bravely opened up about self-harm, being diagnosed with depression and sleeping with over a hundred men in a desperate attempt to change her sexual orientation.

Of a game of spin the bottle when she was 14, during which she kissed a girl, Malley writes: “It felt so right, but I was tortured by the thought my parents and friends would disown me if they knew the truth, so I started self-harming.”

Despite attending counseling, Malley said her mum sat in on the sessions, so she couldn’t bring up her oppressed sexual orientation as a possible contributing reason to her depression.

She says she “just kept insisting my parents’ recent split was to blame.”

Going on to say she lost her virginity at 16 to a guy from school she says: “I felt nothing for him. But, as it wasn’t too awful, either, I figured I’d get used to it if I kept trying.”

Continuing, she says: “I decided to meet as many guys as I could, seeking them out on Twitter, Tinder and dating sites.”

Over a couple of years, Malley says she slept with dozens of men, but says “The thought of seeing any of them a second time made me shudder.”

When she turned 19, Malley says she secretly attended a gay bar where “for the first time ever I felt comfortable.”

But she continued sleeping with men, as she “couldn’t face the truth.”

Eventually, Malley says she came out to some friends who were supportive, and eventually her parents.

She ends by saying she doesn’t regret “sleeping with so many men,” but she got a tattoo to cover up her self-harm scars.

The tattoo reads: “Don’t let your past determine your future.”

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45 Comments

  1. Guy Next Door
    May 24, 07:06 Reply

    That’s what happens… The earth is still a straight human’s world, and in a straight human’s world, straight humans (straight men) get away with rape.

  2. Kainene
    May 24, 07:36 Reply

    Hmmm some pple and their courage shaa. My homosexuality is written in stone I dint suffer such denial past secondary school. *imagines corrective sex with a woman and shudders* good morning KD

  3. Delle
    May 24, 09:16 Reply

    Huh? That’s more men than most straight girls have even kissed! My lady, at dick number 40, did nothing occur to u that dicks isn’t the solution to your problem? Another bisexual trying to cling to one part of her sexuality. *rme*
    Come to think of it, a hundred men at 22? Hian.

    • Kenny
      May 24, 09:30 Reply

      She’s not bisexual. She’s a lesbian who slept with so many men hoping it would change her. She made mistakes, she was young and had little or no form of support. Let’s not judge her. We all make mistakes.

      • Delle
        May 24, 10:54 Reply

        “…But, as it wasn’t too
        awful, either, I figured I’d get used to it if I kept trying.”
        It should be awful hunnay, if she were lesbian.

          • Delle
            May 24, 11:55 Reply

            Yes Mandy, if. I still don’t think I can call her ‘lesbian’ confidently after she’s had 100, not 10 but a hundred men. Oh and she thought the sex wasn’t ‘so’ awful. Yes Mandy, if.

    • pete
      May 24, 10:07 Reply

      Another bisexual trying to cling to one part of her sexuality. *rme*

      Sigh!

      • Delle
        May 24, 10:56 Reply

        Pete, quit being overly sensitive about this. Some bisexuals (emphasis on ‘some’), find it difficult to own up to their bisexuality. They still claim the gay or straight tag.

        • Mandy
          May 24, 10:59 Reply

          His sensitivity stems from your unrelenting crusade against bisexuals. The post was talking about a lesbian. A lesbian. And somehow you made it another sneering barb against bisexuals. Perhaps if you stopped seizing on every chance to degrade them, he’ll stop harping on your comments.

          • Delle
            May 24, 12:03 Reply

            Oh Mandy, are you for real now? Just cos I once used to have some friction with the bisexuals doesn’t mean I scratch at them at the slightest opportunity. There was no part in what I wrote where I degraded bisexuals. I only speak truth. It may only be hurtful if I had generalised, but did I? I don’t think I did. Now now dear, relax.
            And yes, the post talks on a lesbian, but from my inference, she isn’t so much of a lesbian. Is that degrading also? Or just a harmless opinionated quip? Jeez Mandy.

            • Pink Panther
              May 24, 12:15 Reply

              In other words, you’re equating sexuality with who one has sex with? You’re saying because she could have sex with men, she can’t be gay?

              • Delle
                May 24, 12:45 Reply

                Sex once or twice or at most thrice, then maybe it doesn’t define your sexuality. But a hundred times?! Please…

                • Pink Panther
                  May 24, 15:48 Reply

                  By that logic, hookers who get up to having loads of sex must be really into the men they’re hooking up with.

                • Colossus
                  May 24, 15:55 Reply

                  Oh delle, after reading your summation, I had to go read the post again to be sure the lady talked about her attraction to women.
                  Where did you get the bisexual angle from? Because she slept with men? Men she said she didn’t like, men she said she didn’t feel right afterwards?

                  “Charlotte Malley bravely opened up about self-harm, being diagnosed with depression and sleeping with over a hundred men in a desperate attempt to change her sexual orientation”

                  “but I was tortured by the thought my parents and friends would disown me if they knew the truth, so I started self-harming.”

                  “She ends by saying she doesn’t regret “sleeping with so many men,” but she got a tattoo to cover up her self-harm scars.
                  The tattoo reads: “Don’t let your past determine your future.”

                  I just wanted to highlight those paragraphs to be sure we are reading the same story.

                  • Delle
                    May 24, 22:04 Reply

                    You always seem to think in your own circle of intelligence (an off-putting stance if I may add) that I infer not from the entries, don’t you? Well, if that’s the basis of your comment, I have no explanations whatsoever to give to you. Keep swimming in your pool of self-deceit.

    • kacee
      May 24, 17:34 Reply

      “That more men than most gay straight girls have even kissed” Really Man is that all you can say cos you know all straight girls in THE WORLD. *SMH*

      Delle I think you have serious issues with Women, like WTF. What did they ever do to you? Eh!!! I know gay men who have still have sex with Women just to know if they are really bi, Straight or gay.

      “At dick number 40, did nothing occur to u that dicks isn’t the solution to your problem?… Seems you haven’t been in Denial and Depressed at the same time because of your sexual orientation cos if u have u would know why she did what she did.

      And one more thing BABY BOY no matter the amount of Dicks(BBC and co) the Vagina consumes its still goes back to its former shape.

      • Delle
        May 24, 22:00 Reply

        Sweetheart, don’t come for me. Whenever I talk about women, you always think I’m out to attack them. So, she sleeps with a hundred men (that in itself isn’t even my business), says the sex wasn’t awful (a hundred times of copulation) and still claims lesbian? Okay.
        Let’s agree she really is lesbian, but where in the world did the issue of ‘vagina retaining its shape after ‘consuming’ BBCs’ stem from?

        • kacee
          May 24, 22:47 Reply

          If she says she is a Lesbian then she is a Lesbian WHO ARE YOU to call her Bisexual… and for fuck sake she was finding herself. OMG *SMH*
          “Come to think of it, a hundred men at 22?”… this was why I mentioned Vagina. Her sleeping once with men doesn’t make her less of a Lesbian.. for fuck sake she was CONFUSED then and alone. JEEZ
          You know what Believe what u want to believe, It’s late and I need my beauty sleep.

          • Delle
            May 25, 00:15 Reply

            Lol! Don’t I just love your stance on this issue? Very very confident. You make it seem like being bisexual is a bad thing though, hmm.
            Besides, she didn’t sleep ‘once’ with men. That in itself makes a whole lot of difference.
            Oh and in your first comment, u said and I quote, “Delle I think you have serious issues with Women, like
            WTF. What did they ever do to you?”…
            I can’t help but cringe at the misogynistic undertone here. Definitely not from me though, I have no idea what you’re talking about in this regard.
            Okay love, I’m done. Night night.

            • Tiercel de Claron
              May 25, 01:25 Reply

              Seems you have a foot-in-the-mouth condition,Delle.
              And your own case eh,no be here.

              • Delle
                May 25, 10:46 Reply

                I was going to ignore you, but no, that would be too easy. I get that you don’t like Delle but maybe in your self-absorbed hate, it eludes you that I detest your guts also (horribly, in fact). If you have nothing other than spiteful comments to contribute, take your ailing self somewhere else, Mr TDC! The sight of your monicker makes me want to spill my innards.

            • kacee
              May 25, 09:53 Reply

              Being Bisexual isnt a bad thing but you have no right to call her Bi because she said she is a Lesbian who HAS had sex with men doesnt make her less of it. SO ahhh already.
              But you do have issues with women. Being gay doesn’t mean women are to blame for Nigeria not accepting your sexuality.

              • Delle
                May 25, 10:47 Reply

                Smh. I can’t believe you actually typed that last paragraph.

  4. BeeJay
    May 24, 09:40 Reply

    kikikikiki! slut alert *just saying*

  5. Y
    May 24, 09:43 Reply

    So what if she slept with a hundred men? Her body, her choice. Stop body policing.

  6. Kamal
    May 24, 10:06 Reply

    Weren’t we all once upon a time conflicted, drowning in pools of identity crises, hating and cursing ourselves for who we simply are? To prove my ‘manliness’ to my peers and sweep suspicion away, I conformed. And anytime I do, I loathed it… Forward to the now, I have learned to accept and love me some more. Time’s so beautiful. It did the magic!

    • Delle
      May 24, 10:57 Reply

      So, do you flip your extensions now and flutter your eyelashes? Lol

  7. Flakes
    May 24, 10:38 Reply

    Something “we’ve ” done and looked backed and wept over it. Only in this case, this very someone slept with almost half that number to get over the hurt of rejections and insecurities……

  8. kacee
    May 24, 17:40 Reply

    Omg I feel for her. The pain! . At least some people now know Lesbians face alot too.

  9. Kamal
    May 24, 22:09 Reply

    Lol. Are u serious Delle? What ever made u to think that… sorry to disappoint u. I don’t.

  10. Francis
    May 24, 23:18 Reply

    Delle not everyone is out to get you or make you look grossly unintelligent. Cultivate the habit of “listening” biko.

    • Delle
      May 25, 00:20 Reply

      I never said or implied anyone is…did I? If it’s on the Colossus issue, that’s a lost cause.
      And listening? I shouldn’t defend my standpoint because someone does not agree with me? It’s an argument and as such, the two parties should be allowed the freedom of expression. I listen when I have to, don’t generalise.

      • Delle
        May 25, 11:10 Reply

        You know what? I think I’m done. I can’t handle no more…

    • Keredim
      May 25, 10:45 Reply

      Its like the “Sam Smith” episode all over again…
      ??????

      • Francis
        May 25, 11:21 Reply

        What’s this one yarning now? How does this relate to that our Sam Smith yarns? ?????

      • Keredim
        May 25, 14:12 Reply

        @Francis, Kacee and most got the “mis-yarn”.

        Please don’t let your bias against Sam Smith cloud your objectivity in this context.????

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