ONE STEP AT A TIME (Episode 1)
I call him Cherie and that makes him blush. He can get on my last nerve, making me want to rip off his epiglottis sometimes. But then he always has the power to calm me back down.
Living with him makes me feel like a toddler who is just learning how to walk. I have never envisaged living with someone I am dating. I prefer living apart but in the same city, you know, enough space to be an individual but just close enough to be a couple.
That makes this arrangement of living with Cherie a serving of new experiences for me. I have my anxieties over how many things that could go wrong with us being this together, primarily because I know I can be unpredictable. My star sign is Cancer and we Cancerians can change like chameleons when you least expect it, and that’s not a very endearing quality to have. And then I hear people say when partners live together, they get used to themselves and eventually, they start to get bored with each other.
I can tell you the honest truth: a relationship becomes a really big deal when you’re staying under the same roof with your partner. A lot of things might go wrong and fester if you two don’t work at it. And I get that. Cherie gets it too. Ours is a journey of two imperfectly perfect people, building up a bleeding patience and tolerance as we go.
It’s starting to be obvious to me that Cherie might have OCD. I clean the house, and when I’m finished, he’ll clean it again. It’s as though the house isn’t ordered until he has done it himself. And this, coming on the heels of the work I’ve done, can be really annoying. He is so prim and proper with specific needs about cleanliness. Ah! Biko, it’s too much. Lol.
His jealousy nko? That trait is unpredictable. You might think he doesn’t have time for your mobile phone, and then he’ll remember you when you are snoring heavily at midnight. He can take his time with perusing the conversations you’ve had online. The other day, I woke up to find the fitness pictures I’d uploaded on my instagram page deleted. When I brought it up, he rolled his eyes while saying, “You cannot be sampling that body for the world to see and get thirsty over. Don’t you know you can still exude sexiness without showing your flesh? You are married biko!”
Lol. Chai!
Did I also mention how eagle-eyed he can be? He can sit some centimeters away and tell you word to word who you’re chatting with and what you’re saying in the chats. A friend sent me a message while we were in church and I quickly replied before the service started with a smiley. When the service ended, Cherie asked, “Who was that guy you were busy sending orishirishi mushy smiley to? Does he know you are married?”
That actually made me laugh very hard, especially when I imagined him stretching his neck to see what my business was on my phone.
We both have a love for cuddling. After the day’s wahala, we always end up cuddling each other in bed. And that right there is my comfort zone. We can’t go to bed mad at each other, because that’s just a recipe for misery.
One of the reasons I believe we work is because our relationship goes beyond the sexual. We are actually friends. We gossip together, talk to each other, and just generally fool around together. In the end, there’s just too many persons in him for me to love. Lover. Brother. Friend. Confidante. Partner in crime.
Just too many of him for me to never stop loving.
Melvyn.
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24 Comments
Mandy
March 28, 07:37You two should go easy on your jealousy o. It’s cute now but it can easily get very irritating as y’all progress. #justsaying
Di-Navy
March 28, 10:13Did you read the piece well to understand the idiom there? What’s love witbout jealousy biko?
He”s jealous but never stifling. That being said you should also remember that nobody is perfect you know . What matters is love and understanding .
MagDiva
March 28, 07:58Loving the rose tinted glasses.
Not to be a pessimist, but I’d pay attention to all the warning signs – controlling, jealousy …
Eugene
March 28, 08:11Write your words of encouragement and go!
Di-Navy
March 28, 10:15Its good to have minimal jealousy in a relationship , that alone can keep you on check . Unless you dont love whoever you ate having an affair eith . That’s when it becomes irky.
See the brighter side of the diary and leave pessimism..
shuga chocolata
March 28, 08:23nice, more years to your married life. ?
peach head
March 28, 08:26waiting seriously for love, wherever my love is biko do quick and locate me…
Canis VY Majoris
March 28, 09:09Lol its funny how these things that are ‘cute’ now might become inreconcilable differences with time. I’ve always imagined how living with a partner might be, this will surely be an attentive piece for me.
All the best M & C.
Nuel
March 28, 09:15hope u guys are considering raising children…. pls make this a perfect family. see u on the other side.
Pink Panther
March 28, 09:19Lol. Which other side biko?
cedar
March 28, 10:43Help me ask am o. And wereminit, raising kids kwa, in dis 9ja?
Kevin
March 28, 10:34Melvyn I’m so happy for you mate . I really am but I need some help brothers . I’ve been outed and I’m seriously losing my mind by the minute . Please I need help as to how to deal with this
I just chanced upon this page a few days ago and now I know you lot are the only ones who will understand my situation
Michael
March 28, 14:20You have to share your story first then, you can get the help you need.
Kevin
March 28, 14:33Is there a way I can get in touch with admin here please
Pink Panther
March 28, 15:10Yes. The email is pantherptb@yahoo.com
Brian Collins
March 28, 13:39This is about Di-Navy and Kenny right? I’m really happy to see that the relationship has blossomed even more.
Olu
March 28, 14:34Hey Melvyn Congratulations!!! I would advise you keep your private rosy loving relationship with your man private. Whatever ups and downs, keep them at least within your private circle, don’t be sharing this on a public site. Wish you and your partner all the best.
Peaches
March 28, 15:30omg. he is sooo me!. Awwwn. Nice Nice Nice.
mizta dee
March 28, 18:28Awwww, this is just amazing, I love kudos guys! Am here waiting on my own boo like kilode!!! ??
Cleopatro
March 28, 21:29can we help Kevin, I think he’s been hit bad.
Adichie
March 29, 00:10I want to read a true story of a proposal in Nigeria or let it be my story. Please is it too much to ask
Pankar
March 29, 10:14Honestly.
omiete
March 29, 10:34wow, even with all this you choose to stay, its just so beautiful. Am thinking of getting back out there and your relationship gives me hope
Jelani
April 25, 05:59OKAY but what is yall’s instagram?