I got acquainted with this guy on Facebook during the lockdown period. We got talking and during our conversations, he revealed to me stuff about his life. He’d lost his job and accommodation at the same time, and at the time, was squatting in the mainland. I stay on the Island.
As we talked, he began pleading for me to let him come over to my place to stay while he looks for a new job. I was uneasy about this at first, but I later agreed. Throughout the lockdown period, we talked and I tried to get to know him more.
Then when the lockdown was eased, he moved to my place. After he settled down and we’d started relating, he told me he wanted us to date. I liked him and so, I agreed to his proposal. A week after he moved in, he got a job and things were so good between us.
Now, his family wants to get to know me – you know, the guy who rescued their son during his time of need – and the vibes he is giving me is making me uncomfortable. For the record, I am effeminate and soft spoken. His mother had requested that I call her, and he told me that during the phone call, I should deepen my voice and “act like a nigga”. I was insulted by this and refused. And that’s when our issues started.
For over two weeks now, his mother has been requesting to speak with me, but that phone conversation hasn’t happened because I have refused to agree with what he’s asking. And that has started affecting our relationship. I really love him, but I can’t agree to be fake for even one second of my life. And things are getting very messed up between us.
Dear KD, please, what should I do?
Submitted by Phoenix