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  1. Black Dynasty
    December 14, 2018

    100% agree.

    My online profiles usually mention my disinterest in married/partnered men. I like my peace and I’m not trying to look for karma’s trouble… too many single men out there to be the side piece.

    On another note, Nnana clearly knows his bf has wandering eyes and you are likely not the first he’s tried this on. Why stay? Why remain with him? Perhaps monogamy is not important….

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  2. trystham
    December 14, 2018

    Toh! We that fear karma, lerus gather one side for our selfie

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  3. Kainene
    December 14, 2018

    Your principles are bae. My respect for you is overflowing. Sanctimonious ke! I call it self respect. ❤️

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    • Delle
      December 14, 2018

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  4. Canis VY Majoris
    December 14, 2018

    In time, everyone is the “other man or woman”.

    The sooner you accept that the less complicated life becomes.

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    • J
      December 14, 2018

      LOL don’t be a cum sack honey, I can see that you’ve given up already 😂😂😂

      I believe there are still few single and committed minded guys out there.

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      • J
        December 14, 2018

        I’m one of them, so I can boost about it 😊

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    • Jinchuriki
      December 14, 2018

      Beleive J. There are still lots of single and “can commit, commited minded men out there. Don’t givie up.

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  5. Dimkpa
    December 14, 2018

    I understand your principle but I feel you have a limited view of relationships. Monogamy is not the only way to go. Even straight couples are exploring sex in other forms with other people. Swingers, cuckolding etc. Lots of gay people in marriages and relationships regularly have threesomes or separate encounters with others. The main issue is that both parties agree. Couples share everything, why not sexual fantasies and experiences they may not be able to give each other? In my opinion it makes them stronger.

    I have seen a lot of gay relationships and they almost always become open either overtly or covertly. The best thing we can do is get real and stop chasing unicorns.

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    • Francis
      December 14, 2018

      Unfortunately one party doesn’t agree but is too chicken to say anything about it probably out of fear of being alone, poor or whatever 🤷‍♂️😔

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    • Keredim
      December 14, 2018

      Spot on Dimpka.

      Relationships can be committed and still be open, especially gay ones.

      Point is, there is an agreement between those involved and whatever the agreement, it doesn’t devalue the essence of the relationship.

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    • Black Dynasty
      December 14, 2018

      Very fair point, monogamy is not for everyone. But for those who want monogamy, it is not a limited view.

      All you’ve mentioned only works when both partners agree on this. In most instances, this is not the case. One party expects monogamy and the other is sexually exploring outside the relationship without the knowledge of the first party.

      I think people need to explore more and find out what works for them before deciding to settle down.

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      • Delle
        December 15, 2018

        Exactly!

        My grouse with Nnanna is in the fact that he is willing to absorb it all and let it slide. I mean, why?

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      • Black Dynasty
        December 16, 2018

        IMO, it usually boils down to one or a combo of these:

        1) self worth/confidence issues.
        2) little self love (if you love yourself, you won’t allow that nonsense)
        3) Afraid of being alone.
        4) Financial security.

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    • Delle
      December 15, 2018

      All of what Francis said.

      I get what you’re saying, Dimkpa but that’s not the case here. I’ll he dumb not to know that communication is what’s Paramount in a relationship but unfortunately, Nnanna doesn’t want such thing. Did you read what he said to me the minute Paul stepped out? That’s his state of mind.
      On that note, what Paul’s doing is not to be encouraged.

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    • Justme
      December 16, 2018

      For me, sex without an emotional connection is totally unenjoyable, and is something to be avoided in the context of a relationship.I can’t imagine being in a relationship and having sex with other men without putting the emotional basis of the relationship in jeopardy. Yes, one man cannot fulfill all our sexual “fantasies” but to me, a big part of being in a relationship is sacrifice (for lack of a better word) and focus on your partner. Maybe you shouldn’t have your cake and eat it too.

      I know that sounds prudish and old fashioned in the current gay universe of wanton sex enabled by PrEP, viagra and whatnot but please don’t shoot me 🙈.

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  6. mike
    December 15, 2018

    Well I think yhur mixing it up, the commitment thing, a commited relationship, could not allow for a third party. Yhur paul is not in a commited relationship, his in a OPEN relationship, open meaning yhu as a third party can come in.

    On that note Delle, do go back to paul and get a good and shake, yhu no go carry belle in jesus name, ameen. unless what yhu really meant was, anyone in a RELATIONSHIP is a no go area, then yhur stance is valid.

    Buh delle talk true sha, the real reason yhu don’t want to be the other man is because yhu think of the other man as LESS , at least less than the MAIN MAN, and yhu feel yhur worthy enough to have yhur own man.

    Yhur fairytale is gonna take a longer time cause yhu want the real thing, delle sha try dey use Chinese fone till them release apple customised for yhu.

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    • Delle
      December 15, 2018

      Your third paragraph reeks of confident presumptions and I know just how much you needed that to be the truth but it’s not. Please, you do not know me. Do not be typing things like you do.

      That said, if that whole ‘…Chinese until Apple phone is made ready’ expression you used in your last paragraph implies I settle for less, umm sorry, I’m not buying. I won’t settle for less than I deserve.

      Thanks 😊.

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  7. Ussy
    December 16, 2018

    I suffered this same plague in my last relationship. Despite being committed to each other , his EX just couldn’t let us be even after a year together . It got so bad , his EX said he would be waiting for him when our relationship ends . It’s so sad.

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  8. Chiedu
    January 1, 2019

    Stop making boxes, okay?
    You can be monogamous and committed, open and committed, married with children and bdsm swingers and committed. You can also be any of the above, and more, and NOT be committed. What works for you will probably not work for others, there is no path to a happy relationship. Acting like there are objective reasons the path you CHOSE is better than others’ is condescending and will only wind up limiting your understanding of what a relationship can be. Two people in a relationship don’t even necessarily have to have the same approach to sexual openness…as long as these differences are discussed and personal limits and boundaries are shared. And what are all these aspersions about people ‘staying for money’? Did they tell you that?
    Being gay is supposed to remove the genteel restrictions of heteronormativity, not compound them.
    PS. Happy New Year!

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