These past weeks have been really educative and interesting. Bae and I have really gotten to learn a lot about ourselves in ways we never got to do while in Nigeria. It’s one thing to be dating someone and be staying apart, maybe get to meet up at intervals. But it’s a totally different scenario when you live in same space with your partner. It’s not all that rosy. There’ve been fights, sharp exchange of words – crazy moments really. But like I said before, when he’s your brother and best friend, you’ll survive.
This makes resolving any issue that comes up between us a lot easier. You can fight all you can with your brother but will still remain together. There is an Igbo saying which goes like so: Iwe nwanne anaghi eru na okpukpu, which literally translates to “The anger of a sibling doesn’t get to the bone.” This means: A sibling’s anger is shallow or temporary.
Bae now has a job. He actually started his first day at work on the day of our fifteenth month anniversary. Sorting out his residence documents and putting him through the process of getting a job hadn’t been easy, but God has our back. We pray together too. I still believe in the saying that a couple that prays together stays together. (Never mind all those people, both gay and straight, that’d like you to believe that God hates gays. Well, the God I worship doesn’t hate me and Bae.)
My younger cousin from my mother’s side is coming over this weekend. I have two options: either come out to him so Bae and I won’t have to pretend around him, or get him someplace else to stay. The two options are hard, the first for obvious reasons. The only family member that knows about me is some other younger cousin who’s a doctor in the US. I came out to him five years ago when he was still in medical school. I supplied the revelation ‘carelessly’ during our chat on Facebook and he chuckled and said he’d always known. I asked him how he got to know and he said no straight guy loves Beyoncé the way I do. I just rolled my eyes in response. And he has been totally cool with it and occasionally wants to know updates concerning my boyfriends.
But with this one coming to visit, I’m a bit worried, because I don’t want a situation where I’ll come out to him and he’ll start acting funny or disrespecting me or Bae. This I won’t take.
The second option is also hard because, as a newbie in town, he needs guidance and assistance in the time before he finds his feet and settles down. But in that all that time… With him in the same apartment with us… I really don’t know what to do.
I need your advice, guys.
We stumbled on some Commercial Ad audition on a Facebook page we both follow. They required only foreigners for the shoot, especially Africans and Austrians/Germans. Bae and I went for the audition. If we are successful, it should be nice because the pay that comes with it is a good one.
Summer is fast approaching and we have some serious travel plans. I hope we will get some time off work to be able to explore this country. The city we stay in is already a bore to us. I won’t be able to pen down our daily activities because then I’d bore you guys. But I will make sure I come on here to update you guys as often as something interesting happens. Also, I’m sure Bae has got a lot to say. I’m off this evening, so let me go and make him a nice dinner to celebrate his first day at work before he gets back from work.
And please, let’s have your advice on the issue of what to do with my cousin.