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  1. Mandy
    May 1, 2017

    Summer is fast approaching and we have some serious travel plans.

    When you’re boo-ed up so tight, your lives are now about what plans the two of you have as a couple instead of as individuals. ????Such relationship goals. Carl and Melvynn, you guys don’t know how much I envy you. Keep your good thing going please.

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  2. Belcullen
    May 1, 2017

    Well seeing that you would be the one taking care of him and all. I’m very sure he wudnt mind you telling him. He should know its your life and should respect it. He might be uncomfortable at first but he would eventually get used to it. Staying with you 2 would make him see how being gay doesn’t translate to some1 being a monster. Treat him well nd he’ll all forget his Nigerian gay bashing mentality..

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    • Francis
      May 1, 2017

      Will he be able to keep kwayet and not transmit the info back to home people? That’s the main thing

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      • KingBey
        May 1, 2017

        This is exactly my worry. He might talk to people back home. Being a mummys pet. He’s always on the phone with his mum and that is my worry.

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      • Delle
        May 1, 2017

        He isn’t a baby. When you come out to him, you’d make him understand you aren’t ready for the family to know and that you’d really want it to be a secret for now.
        You could go ahead to patronize him by saying you only wanted to tell him cos you felt he was mature enough to handle it. He should understand what Bro Code means and only a wizard would go ahead to snitch on his host knowing the repercussions of his action.

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      • Pink Panther
        May 1, 2017

        ??? My thinking exactly.

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      • ambivalentone
        May 1, 2017

        When has ‘bro code’ and homophobia worked together? I can already see his lips flapping for a lifetime’s worth of tale-telling. Nwa m, prevent stories that touch. Its only a weekend na (or not?). What posh666 said.

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      • Francis
        May 1, 2017

        If na just weekend he no for raise the matter na. This na probaby indefinite stay till he settle well

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    • FJ
      May 1, 2017

      Hmmm, are you sure? My closest friend whom i had sacrificed so much for, more than anyone could ever imagine, was the first to lead an uprising against me when he got winds of my being gay. Being nice to them, may really not change the devil in them.

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      • Francis
        May 1, 2017

        In as much as we are not to expect rewards for being amazing, this sucks still ???

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      • Pink Panther
        May 1, 2017

        This sounds like a story we want to hear.

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  3. Francis
    May 1, 2017

    Baba God do oh. I want to be serious human being ?????

    This your predicament na serious something. I have zero advice on the matter. Thankfully nobody ever wants to come to my end and if they eventually do, I can always formulate one better lie to keep them away unless i kinda like them and they are just staying a few days for sure. I can survive in the closet for a few days but other than that na die be that.

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    • Jide
      May 4, 2017

      Lool you’re the worst tho

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  4. Delle
    May 1, 2017

    I’m all for coming out to him. There really was no way it would be a secret forever and from every single person in the family.

    You could tell him you are gay but not necessarily that you and bae are together (it might be a lot to swallow at once). Let him piece two and two together.
    Come out to him on a very wonderful day, when his mood screams happiness and the weather is as pleasant as supper by the river.
    I’m sure he wouldn’t be that dumb as to board a flight the next day back to Nigeria.

    You can’t keep it away from him. If. He doesn’t take it well, his loss. He would have to fend for himself in a country he isn’t used to.

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    • FJ
      May 1, 2017

      You ‘ll be so shocked to see him dafter than you could ever imagine. Some would rather bury their life and whatever prospects life with you may hold, than simply showing some understanding. It’s sometimes difficult to predict the Nigerian homophobe.
      I ‘ll rather advise he takes time to study the cousin before reeling out such information. Graded outing is another option, while watching the cousin’s action or inaction.

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      • Delle
        May 1, 2017

        True. But I’m hanging on to that thread of hope of the cousin being sensible.
        Of course he would study the cousin before coming all out (which I already stated).

        If he decides to still be the ignorant mofo and out you to your family, consider it fate and good riddance.
        Best be with the one who loves you than those you have to pretend to be what you are not in order to gain their love.

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  5. Deviantus
    May 1, 2017

    Well, “Carl”, I think there’s a third option.
    Wait.
    For him to notice things.
    For his reaction or none thereof.
    For him to settle down so that he doesn’t feel “blackmailed” into accepting you and Bae.
    For the right time to come out; as much I don’t believe in “coming out”, (straight guys don’t, who I fuck shouldn’t be of interest to you) but I’m being delusional here, so yes, when the right time comes tell him matter-of-factly. This could be tricky as he might decide to relay the message to Nigeria like an unpaid courier or he might not.
    The first persons, and significantly the hardest, that I “came out” to were my childhood friends. They are brothers, approximately 10 months apart and we’ve always been “blood” as we grew up together. It was hard. I was 15 and had to because of some circumstances. The first few days were crucial as they were curious and partly in disbelief but I stood my ground. We’re fine now much more so than ever. I came out to my Godmum, their mum, through one of them early this year, she has always known. But my situation is unique in that my younger sister has known about me since, well, since walking in on me banging away at her crush at 13 so…. I kinda was never really in the closet
    Just wait. Give teasers. Subtle ones. Then open the bloody closet and come out swinging in sequinned spandex.
    A good time to do so would be during Pride.

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    • DI-NAVY
      May 1, 2017

      Yasssssssssssss.

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    • FJ
      May 1, 2017

      Good…???????

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    • KingBey
      May 1, 2017

      Erdongan would not let us celebrate Pride in peace. ???

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  6. posh666
    May 1, 2017

    Do you really need to explain anything to him? Just act the way you act without the unnecessary touching,calling of pet name and kissing in his front. If he observes things and decides to confront you with the issue then you can tell him the truth.. .

    But for the time being since you don’t know his stance about gay’s you can keep ur display of emotions away from him cos it won’t be fair to make him uncomfortable just because you feel you are helping him out.

    You won’t die if you and bae don’t have sex on the kitchen counter.But apart from that do whatever you like in your bedroom.Its not your fault if he decides to be nosy and hears your lovemaking moans.After all you are paying the rent.

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    • KingBey
      May 1, 2017

      On point. ✋

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  7. Gag
    May 1, 2017

    You can drop subtle hints though. For example, you can watch movies that have gay people in it and look at his reaction when he sees them and what he says. Also, you can tell him about Celebrities who are Out and Proud, then listen to what he has to say about them and their sexuality.

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  8. Quinn
    May 3, 2017

    Ah to be young and in love! the singles cruise is still fun!!! about Beyonce, really??? they’re missing! no need to sweat it about coming out to your cousin, do what feels right, check if its worth the risk, but remember, only your happiness matters

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