Six Reasons You Fall In Love
Originally posted on post.aazah.com
1.You Love The Way They Smell
When you’ve been dating or in a relationship with someone for a long time, you come to know what they smell like. You know what kinds of colognes they like, what type of shower gel they use. You don’t even mind it when they’re a little bit…funky. That’s because you can look past all the bad traits and you constantly see the good stuff. You walk into your apartment when they’re gone but you smell them and you know that they were just there before you. Smells linger — on dirty laundry, on pillows you’ve laid on. Scents by themselves don’t necessarily make us fall in love with someone, but they trigger our emotions. That’s because scents are the ghosts leftover when our loves go away.
2. You Love The Way They Make You Nervous
When our loves make us nervous, it’s because we feel attached to them. Not needy, but attached. They give us that warm, fuzzy feeling, the feeling you only get when there’s an emotional attachment to that person. You’re nervous because you care. You’re nervous because you want them to love you back. Love makes us all fragile and vulnerable, and nervousness is the way our bodies let us know that we’re in that state.
3. You Love Their Laugh
We know that laughter should play a key role in any meaningful relationship, but have you ever thought about how you start to laugh like the people you are in relationships with? You love their laugh so much that it has taken over your own style of laughter. But that’s only natural. When you’re so intimate and connected to someone, clearly you borrow their speech patterns and body language. Consider it a form of flattery.
4. You Know Them Better Than They Know Themselves
Everybody has style, even the people who think they don’t care about fashion. Style is the wrapping that makes us want to discover what’s underneath, but like smell, it is also a kind of ghost. You can be out shopping and see a shirt or a pair of underwear that you know your significant other will love. You instantly have a flash of them, smile all to yourself, and buy it for them because you know them better than they know themselves.
5. They make You Feel Safe
When you date someone, they should make themselves available. They have to make you feel like they care, and the best way to do that is to make you feel safe. You feel safe in their arms at night. You feel safe sitting with them at dinner at your favorite restaurant. You feel safe when they take care of you when you’re sick.
6. You Can’t Imagine Living Without Them
There are a lot of reasons people get into or out of relationships. No relationship is ever picture perfect — they all have problems. But at the end of the day, no matter what other ridiculousness is going on, ask yourself: can you imagine living without this person? If you stopped talking to this person right now, forever, would you care? If the answer is a big fat no, for the love of God, END IT NOW. But if the answer is yes, no matter what problems you have, it’s worth trying to work it out.
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27 Comments
kennedy
March 29, 11:02awwwwwwwwn *dabs tears with tissue*
Delle
March 29, 11:11Agree with all except number 2. I don’t think I’d want to feel nervous with my partner (good nervous or bad). It’s not a welcome feeling for me…anxiety maybe, but not nervousness. The rest are just bae.
Law
March 29, 11:28Hi Delle
Delle
March 29, 16:00Haha Law. Hello.
Mandy
March 29, 11:12‘We know that laughter should play a key role in any meaningful relationship, but have you ever thought about how you start to laugh like the people you are in relationships with? You love their laugh so much that it has taken over your own style of laughter.’
This is so on point with the last guy i dated. At a period in our relationship, friends began to observe to us that we were starting to sound the same whenever we laughed. It was uncanny.
Pink Panther
March 29, 11:14Number 1 is the one that hit close to home. At a point, I started relishing his smell on every item in my room.
ambivalentone
March 29, 11:48How do u do it? The only time I perceive scents is when things are burning. If dey smoke, cool.
Pink Panther
March 29, 11:49LOl! If you’ve loved someone who has scents peculiar to him, you’d totally smell him and find it very appealing.
shawn
March 29, 19:50i know where you are coming from. i missed my former bf so much one time he traveled that i wore his night shirt. i wanted the smell of him around me. you love someone so much you love their scent.
Therapy
April 25, 22:15I think it’s obscene!
KingBey
March 29, 11:12And they forget the most important one……which is Good ?/? ???
Pink Panther
March 29, 11:13LOL. Kingbey, dont be lewd.
Delle
March 29, 11:23I love me some purple aubergine also *blowing nonchalantly on manicured fingers*
KingBey
March 29, 11:14The satisfaction that a good dicking/nice cakes from your loved one gives is second to none. *blushing*
Pink Panther
March 29, 11:15LOL!!! Chai, someone’s such a hoe with bae.
KingBey
March 29, 11:17???
DI-NAVY
March 29, 19:51SMH real bad.
Mitch
March 29, 11:29Oookay!
Next!
Pink Panther
March 29, 11:32LOL. Someone’s clearly not in love.
Santa Diaba
March 29, 11:49Everything is spot on except no 2 and 6. Yes the nervous feeling is there, but I don’t enjoy it. I HATE it ?
And also, I can’t imagine not being able to live without someone. After my mum’s departure from this world, I think I can handle anyone’s absence from my life; permanently or temporarily.
Pink Panther
March 29, 12:08Awww, Santa. :'(
Kenny
March 29, 12:29I just came to mark attendance. Don’t know anything about this
HERO
March 29, 17:03Hmmmm what can l say? Can l really stay a day without Ruby?? Hell no. I enjoy her wahala, Bitching especially the Attention and Care. But mine is Anxiety especially when church keeps him above 9pm I get very tensed about his Safety.
DI-NAVY
March 29, 20:00So on point, i just can’t imagine life without my shugs, an hour without him is hell. I’m so attached and the feeling is mutual. His laughter and his slangs i emulate without even knowing. lol. I don’t like the nervous part tho he makes me feel that way without knowing but i try to suppress it. Bae like swatch and that i know, he’s a cologne freak too.
Number 7 on that list is, you fall in love because of who he is, his imperfect perfect flaws, you just can’t place why u’re in love with him but within you, you love him unconditionally and regardless.
Francis
March 29, 22:03Smells ehen! Joop! is one perfume I’ll forever link to my first and last hookup. 9 years later it still gets me (Yep, I caught feelings during the hookup. ?).
KingBey
March 30, 14:12Used Joop! last before my current Perf. Affordable and nice. Lasts long too.
*•sugarrr•*
March 29, 23:56O God! Am so addicted to him…