Gay Man Wants To Know What He Can Do With His Boyfriend Being ‘Too Big’

Gay Man Wants To Know What He Can Do With His Boyfriend Being ‘Too Big’

Size doesn’t matter? Well, it often does, especially when your partner is “too” blessed. That’s the issue this guy on Reddit is having – and his fellow-men are offering advice.

“So my boyfriend and I decided after quite a while to take the next step and have sex,” he writes.

But that decision hasn’t gone very well. He continues:

“I knew before hand that it wouldn’t be easy because of the much larger than average size of his dick, but I didn’t realise it would be so difficult.

“I’ve tried researching how to work around this problem but it’s still far from comfortable for me and it’s starting to have a negative effect on him and our relationship, he’s scared I’m going to leave him which he shouldn’t worry about because I love the big old weirdo.

“I was hoping that some of you wonderful people might have some personal advice to give two very horny guys?”

The commenters on Reddit came to the rescue – with advice and tips:

The very first commenter quipped: “Thoughts and prayers.” (I actually found that hilarious)

Then there came others:

“Wanting it bad enough and practice, practice, practice is how it’s done. There is no reason the two of you can’t have fun practising until you get it right. Expecting it to be perfect in the beginning or for it to always be perfect is a fool’s game.”

“Just use lots of lube, maybe too much lube for a while and go slow until it’s right for the both of you.”

“The lube will slide by any potential problems. It’s the not relaxing, tightening up out of fear or just ramming it in etc., that would cause any internal problems.”

“In the beginning I learned to concentrate on taking long, deep breath as a guy enters (not before or after, but during) and then going slow until I was use to the activity and my fears about it had subsided.”

And then, there were suggestions about how perhaps a new position could help.

“There’s actually a bend in your intestines, right after the first part which is your rectum. He’s probably hitting this bend (which might feel like having your insides punched) and some positions aren’t doing you any favours in this situation; namely doggy.”

“Try missionary; if you’re having alignment issues, put the necessary amount of pillows under your butt. He can still penetrate fully in missionary (has to arch the small of his back when thrusting) and it should be more enjoyable for you.”

“Another trick you might try is to do a really long kegel before every push (in the beginning). Engage your muscles like you want to stop peeing and hold this for as long as you can. When you can’t hold it any longer, tell him and have him push deeper inside. The kegel beforehand should help you relax your muscles down there. Do this till he’s completely inside you, then let yourself adjust for a while. Have him start with shallow thrusts and gradually make them deeper.”

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  1. johnny
    August 15, 06:48 Reply

    where are the power bottoms? I love it moderate and fleshy

  2. Shuga chocolata
    August 15, 06:52 Reply

    Lots of lubes, then he should relax, woossssh the magic is done.

      • Shuga chocolata
        August 15, 09:24 Reply

        ??????????? Don’t know what you’re saying, goes back to washing plates and cutlery.

    • Francis
      August 15, 07:22 Reply

      Even with lots of lube that shit looks kinda painful in pornos sef. IMO, it helps a lot if the BF isn’t one of those with rock hard erections. That one dey manageable. #SpeakingOneNightExperience.

      • Pink Panther
        August 15, 07:24 Reply

        THAT’s IT!!! Francis, this your titillating little details has gotten too much! Better hand in a story or I’ll find you and hurt you!

        • Francis
          August 15, 07:31 Reply


          Dahling, I know my strengths and telling stories so ain’t one of them. Kant coman use my hand to scatter my “rep”.

        • Shuga chocolata
          August 15, 09:40 Reply

          Haba pp, please biko, ejooo, mbok, don’t hurt him for me oooo??
          Can you hunt him? Still thinking??

      • Peak
        August 15, 08:42 Reply

        Abeg gist somebody, we go help u write am out, send you a copy for ur verification and approval, before sending it to the publishing room.

        All this kele-kele gist don de get all over my damn nerves. Give us at least ONE story damn it! How u go get a whole collection and not want 2 part with one?! #stingykoko

      • ambivalentone
        August 15, 08:49 Reply

        Errrr…do u mean ‘rock straight’ erections? Those ones are preferable o. If its those bend-bend pricks, u might be in for very uncomfortably limited positions especially if their bends do not match the bend of ur canal.

        • IBK
          August 15, 09:13 Reply

          Actually according to the position used and the curve of the dick it could be VERY pleasurable.. Hitting the sweet spot kind of pleasurable.

          Dicks curved downwards are also awesome for deep throat blow jobs..

          *shuffles research papers*

          Oh.. And good luck to the guy. It gets better with practice, creativity and overuse of lube.

          • Shuga chocolata
            August 15, 09:21 Reply

            IBK hmmmm, I sense a story here *drags you in with full force* oya confession ooo (in jenifas voice.)

            Pp so many stories hererandeir you’re lagging oooooo?✍

          • Pink Panther
            August 15, 09:52 Reply

            Hahahahahahaa!!! Why do these salacious reminiscing not make it into your entries, eh IBK?

        • IBK
          August 15, 09:15 Reply

          And rock straight erections actually aren’t that awesome.. Sometimes feels like you’re being stabbed repeatedly.

      • Shuga chocolata
        August 15, 09:34 Reply

        Sweetheart how’re you doing?
        It’s been awhile I monitored you here ???to all the haters.

        Now back to the mattress on ground.
        I really can’t say it will work for anyone based on the lube issh, I did as I was instructed and I never heard any whining but rather moaning took over.

        @francis, I have done different researches and with that I beg to differ, rock hard straight or curved dicks are best for such enterings, not the semi/flaccid dicks.

        N.B:: For everyone’s peace of mind, my research was based on questions asked to different LGBTI individuals.

        • Pink Panther
          August 15, 09:58 Reply

          Sure. Of course that’s how you conducted your research. We believe you. 😀 😛

      • Peak
        August 15, 09:52 Reply

        @IBK, Oshey aunty mi Hit them with the facts! Jekomo.

      • FOOFOO
        August 15, 09:57 Reply

        Is Gini? Rock hard are the best Na as they can always apply enough pressure to part the red Sea ?. If I wanted a vegetable inside me… I know where to pluck “ugu” stem… #teamrockhard anyway.

  3. Mandy
    August 15, 07:07 Reply

    Thoughts and prayers???
    That commenter is just a hua!

  4. Delle
    August 15, 07:59 Reply

    Thoughts and prayers?! Lmao. Are some people for reals?

    Okay, I HATE BIG DICKS! Hate, hate, hate!
    Jesus! But you can’t hate someone you obviously love because of his size of dick (God, may this not be my portion IJN). If I were the one, we’d just become Sides or we’d do it the artificial way. DILDO!
    I can’t leave my boyfriend, especially when we’re in love, just because he has an oversized appendage. He just isn’t getting in ‘there’ with such. Jeez, God strengthen those that live for BBCs!

    • FOOFOO
      August 15, 10:00 Reply

      Yea… That’s what dey always say in public ?

  5. posh6666
    August 15, 08:28 Reply

    He should pass the bf over to the numerous size queens here in kd i’m sure they would love it.

  6. Khaleesi
    August 15, 09:45 Reply

    Ahhh the wahala of big cocks … Crosses self and hurries off @poster Jesus is your strength …

  7. Francis
    August 15, 12:55 Reply

    @Peak check back in 83 years time ???

    @shuga chocolata: Hi ??? this one you’re clarifying the source of your research, we don think the bad things finish oh. ????. A penis doesn’t have to be rock hard to make an entry unless that hole is tight as fuck. @FuFu

    @IBK tenkiu ojare. You get strengh for the sensation of rock hard stabs. It was part of why I dreaded doggy with the ex. The nigga be stabbing every angle and feeling like a boss meanwhile I’m praying for the nonsense to be over. ????

  8. bain
    August 15, 18:10 Reply

    I usually like big dicks “after” the sex,cuz I’m like wow so I took that,n I just end up wanting more,but it can be reali uncomfortable.

  9. michael
    August 15, 19:37 Reply

    They should try spooning position. It worked wonders for me.

  10. peaches
    August 16, 16:17 Reply

    why am I the last to see this niceness?? *grins* nothing is too big so long its not a frangipani. Lie on ur tummy, with pillows to slightly tilt ur bujay up n Pam! you won’t feel a thing. but tell the uncle to go easy o, cos orgasm at this position drives one stark-raving mad.

  11. Hmmmm
    August 16, 23:46 Reply

    Dick inside rectum sha! Crazy folks

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