Anyone who has ever had any romance with a married gay man would relate with this music video.
The song, Afterglow, is the latest track from California-based singer-songwriter, Christopher Sorensen, and its music video doesn’t pull any punches in its depiction of a young gay man’s introduction to the hook-up app culture.
Christopher Sorensen released his album, Balloon, in 2017. He says he actually wrote Afterglow in 2016. The song came to fruition after he met Australian producer Arizon through Soundcloud.
Balloon addresses issues around bullying, but the Afterglow video is the first time Sorensen really opens up about his sexuality.
The video shows the relationship between a naive, closeted 18-year-old and an older man he meets on Grindr, exploring the culture of casual sex in the gay community and its emotional impact. Sorensen says it’s a subject close to his own heart.
“The video is definitely based on my real-life experience,” he told Gay Star News. “The only difference being the man I was with wasn’t married. I lost my virginity when I was 19 to an older man I met through Grindr, and at the time, had no one to confide in because I was closeted. I was pretty naive and trusting and let him pressure me into things I wasn’t comfortable with.”
He says he realizes his story isn’t unique. He recently talked with another man “who said he lost his virginity to a married man he met off Craigslist when he was only 16.”
“I think gay men can relate to the video,” he says, “because many of us didn’t have the option of exploring romantic relationships normally. For me personally, I had sex the same time I had my first kiss.
“I hope that as society continues to become more open, young gay men will be able to explore their sexualities without having to put themselves in dangerous, potentially harmful situations.”
Asked if he had advice for any other gay men exploring the sexuality for the first time, he says, “Practice self-preservation. If you can, always tell a friend where you’re going. Don’t cloud your judgment with alcohol, so you can always make sure you’re protected. Also, if you ever have any doubts, even if you’re already at the guy’s house, don’t go through with it. You never have to do anything you’re not comfortable with.”
Wiser words have never before been said.