Gay man opens up about vengeful ex sending their sex tape to his boss and family

A man has spoken out after his ex posted their sex tape on the internet and sent it to his boss. The man, known only as Mr. A, has revealed his story in a bid to highlight the crime of revenge porn.

Mr. A split up with his boyfriend, and it didn’t end well. Following their breakup, his ex began to post explicit photos of him on Facebook. When he confronted the ex, he came away from the altercation with a fractured eye socket.

After that, things turned much nastier.

Explicit images were sent directly to his mother, and his family and friends were tagged to the images. A sex tape was thereafter sent to his work colleagues and family.

“My friends were calling and asking if I was aware about what was going on,” Mr. A said.

“While I wasn’t around, he [the ex] had accessed my Dropbox, Facebook, email and other social media. The worst was when my mother called up and told me she didn’t need to see me having sex.”

The ex also published Mr. A’s phone number and address on online dating sites and requested people unknown to him to visit.

“While the images were taken down off Facebook mostly within a few hours, the email to my work was not able to be retracted,” Mr. A said.

“The damage by then was done. In one way, it’s good because there’s nothing hidden about me anymore, but on the same token, my job, my ability to perform, has nothing to do with who I sleep with. I wasn’t hired because of who I sleep with, I was hired because of what I do, and it makes it difficult.”

Mr. A has said he doesn’t understand why his former lover has behaved like this, saying, “…no explanation rationalizes it or makes sense of it. This isn’t high school revenge. I went to bed every night not wanting to wake up the next morning. I just didn’t want to deal with it.”