That Piece On What The True Story In America Is

That Piece On What The True Story In America Is

John Pavlovitz, Christian, pastor and humanist, has come through again in a new write-up titled ‘The True Story Of Today In America.’ Read and be inspired.


We all have stories we like to tell ourselves; narratives we create to frame the world around us.

Those stories often help cushion the blows and soften the impact when things around us are too frightening, too disorienting, too difficult for our minds to deal with.

These stories are often largely well-crafted fiction, born out of fear and desperation, and the sense of something slipping quickly through fingers: control.

Many scared Christians were telling stories today.

In the wake of the Supreme Court’s ruling on Marriage Equality, the spin began simultaneously. As explosive, jubilant waves of long-delayed celebration broke out across the country and the world, the storytellers went to work hastily drafting sensational, concise headlines that might reconcile the unthinkable in front of them:

The Devil is celebrating the death of Marriage.

Christianity is fully under attack.

Gay people have tainted our Christian Nation.

God is preparing His wrath for America.

These stories are a frantic, last gasp, Hail-Mary attempt at avoiding the inevitable—but they are not the real story.

Today wasn’t about gay and lesbian people defeating Christianity. Many of them have a vibrant, deep spiritual life (or not unlike most straight Christians, at least a nominal one). The gay community is a spiritually diverse cross-section of society. There is no party line consensus on faith. Today in no way prevents Christians or churches from living, preaching, and practicing their religious convictions with regard to Marriage.

It wasn’t about gay people defeating Marriage either. Gays and lesbians were fighting to be allowed access to that monogamy, commitment, and devotion in equal measure to everyone else. They weren’t seeking to desecrate Marriage but to participate fully in it; to take their rightful place as members of our shared civic community.

In fact, the story of today was not of defeat at all. It was simply that of Equality winning.

This was about America; the very best of her, asserting herself after being sequestered and silenced for far too long in the discussion of sexual orientation and gender identity.

Today was about that gorgeous, fundamental, brilliant “Life, Liberty and Pursuit of Happiness” aspiration taking the reins and riding tall and proud again.

Today was about the dignity and humanity of all people, getting a louder voice than a small Christian minority used to getting their own way and having all the power and running the whole show. It was a historically favored religious entity being told clearly that their faith convictions and our American ideals are not interchangeable.

Today our government reminded all of its people that you can’t legislate morality, but you must legislate equality; that no one’s theology (not even a passionate, deeply devout Christian’s) gets to trump the inherent value of all people who call our land home. This should be welcome news for all of us, regardless of our faith and tradition.

This was America being the very best of herself.

As a follower of Jesus, I felt a profound sadness today watching so many of my Christian brothers and sisters, who when witnessing the flood of tears and the stunned joy from gays and lesbians and those who love and support them, could only manufacture more vitriol, more loaded rhetoric, more sky-is-falling gnashing of teeth, more spiteful insults, more seething damnation.

It was a terrible testimony.

They were too invested in their self-preserving, fear-filled story to see what was actually happening today. By choosing a death narrative of only their Christianity’s loss, they had rendered themselves unable to see what so many of us could see:

This was a really good day for Humanity.

All of us who live in the United States, regardless of our religious beliefs, race, color, gender, sexual orientation, or any other distinction we can name, need to know that we all matter equally in the eyes of the Law, because we will all find ourselves in a time or place when we will be the minority; when we will be the marginalized or invisible or abused—and we will want America to come through for us.

Today, She finally came through for gay and lesbian people, who now can have full access to loving lifetime relationships, called legitimate in the eyes of its government and protected as such.

That is the story today.

It is not of Christianity’s defeat or of Marriage’s destruction or of America’s moral decay, but of Equality’s glorious revival in a country built upon the intrinsic value of all people.

Whether we claim faith or not, may this be the story we write together from here.

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  1. trystham
    June 27, 05:29 Reply

    I hope somebody will notice this post….oh I guess not. Its not sunday.

  2. pinkpanthertb
    June 27, 05:42 Reply

    LOL! Ah, Trystham, why hast thou exposed thy position as my lieutenant-in-charge-of-illuminati, hmm?

  3. Dimkpa
    June 27, 06:33 Reply

    “Today our government reminded all of its people that you can’t legislate morality, but you must legislate equality; that no one’s theology (not even a passionate, deeply devout Christian’s) gets to trump the inherent value of all people who call our land home”

    This is what GEJ failed to realise in signing the antigay law. The reason he gave that it is supported by 90% or more of Nigerians did not recognise this simple fact. He took away basic human rights from people he was supposed to protect. And he wonders why they call him clueless…

    • Ace
      June 27, 08:19 Reply

      Nothing annoys me more than folks like this!!!! I swear! They are fast to tag America as “morally decayed” but are earnestly fighting for Visa and admission to go to America. Biko, is that no foolishness?

  4. virgin Morgana
    June 27, 06:48 Reply

    Hmm. That is how my Devout Christian homophobic crush told me, an unsuspecting gay man, that he is thinking about organising a prayer revival for America to turn from their evil ways, saying that Sodom and Gomorrah is here, and I was like–

    Pray for America? When you haven’t even lit a candle for this damn country? I pity your predicament.

    This my bobo has applied for a visa to “Sodom and Gomorrah” earlier o, but was denied and he is still applying. Biko, what is he going to “Sodom and Gomorrah” to do?

    He gave me a face that read “I dey suspect you” and I was like “Who gives a rat’s armpit about that?”

    • trystham
      June 27, 06:51 Reply

      #sigh Oho!!! Some Nigerians can hypocrite pass Pharisees. Thats how you ‘de-crushed’ him I guess?

      • virgin Morgana
        June 27, 10:52 Reply

        Hian! A n’ekwu ekwu? Immediately fiam! Hate negative energy around me.

    • QueerMike
      June 27, 10:18 Reply

      “who gives a rat armpit”

      Okay I’m stealing that one *ROTFL*

  5. trystham
    June 27, 06:49 Reply

    Dammit!!! Goes to show how very not cut out I am to be a double-agent. Accept my resignation, Grand Master

    • pinkpanthertb
      June 27, 06:50 Reply

      Hahahahahahaaa!!! Nonsense. You just need better grooming. No resignations allowed.

  6. GOld
    June 27, 14:28 Reply

    Nice write up.

    I do hope the non-christians can see that not all Christians hate or are averse to homosexuality. The hate that I see here towards Christians and Christianity is just too much.
    Sure there are people who will always’s expected. It’s life.but Christianity has always been and will always be about peace and love and acceptance. This man has exemplified it.
    Thanks John. U couldn’t have said it better.

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