Good day, community.
My name is MARO ODHIGBA and I am based in Abuja. I was tagged on Kito Diaries in November 2018 as a kito perpetrator.
I have no excuses to make regarding this. I am gay. My parents are pastors, and I sing in the choir. I have been stealing from infancy. I left my first university, Bingham University, because of queer-related issues. And for five years after that, I was made to do everything on my own. There was no support system coming from home and the only family I had, which is the gay community, seemed to me like it was a competition I had to come out on top. I love sex, I love to go on hookups, but the shame of asking these guys I hook up with for transport fare when I visit them, considering the reactions I get sometimes when I do ask, caused me to start stealing from their wallets.
The story that was posted here isn’t entirely true. I took only five thousand naira from the victim’s wallet, and the rest of the story was concocted by the guy to add to my sins against him. I have kitoed just one person in my entire life, and that was because he told me he wanted to practise scat with me. In my mind, I thought that was him trying to use me for ritual, so I invited him over and robbed him of his valuables. Some other guys have asked me over to their place, and I did steal from their wallets too.
When the kito alert was posted about me in 2018, I didn’t check myself. I didn’t take it as a reason to understand how self destructive I was being. I continued on my path and didn’t stop stealing from people. Even though a couple of friends who saw the post tried to talk to me, I didn’t listen to them and I didn’t think I was wrong.
However, I am doing this now because I have made the conscious effort to stop. Because I have come to that point in my life when I have been arrested by my conscience. Because I am indeed deeply very sorry.
I want to sincerely apologise to this community for everything.
I am sorry.
I did all I did intentionally but without thinking about what it would cost me in the future.
Please, this family should forgive me for everything.
I am back in the university. I am in my third year and I am a change in process. I have learnt my lessons and I am very willing to make amends. If you are reading this and I wronged you during any encounter you’ve had with me, please forgive me. And sincerely, any effort made by this family to make me a better person will be highly appreciated.
I swear to you that I sincerely and genuinely regret all my actions. I swear to you that there will never be another story of me stealing from or kitoing any members of my community anymore. Should there ever be, please use the story and nail me to the cross with your harsh judgments and resolve to never believe the good about me. I say this because I am positive that I will never return to my old ways. I however know that the road to this community trusting me ever again will be long and hard and maybe even unattainable. But I pray that it be a destination that will be gotten to nonetheless.
For everything, I am sorry.
I am sorry.
Written by Maro Odhigba