Musician John Grant Says Gay Men Worry Too Much About Aging

Musician John Grant Says Gay Men Worry Too Much About Aging

‘This aging thing is quite strange. I don’t want to generalize too much, but gay men worry about aging a lot more than other men, from what I can tell.

‘Youth is prized above all things — the beauty of youth — and I know a lot of gay men who are very, very obsessed with keeping young.

‘I don’t understand it in most of their cases. I think older men are super sexy. The ‘beauty of youth’ thing, I totally get that. But by God! I would not want to be where I was in my 20s. I was clueless!”

Out Musician John Grant discusses aging as a gay man — a theme on his acclaimed album Grey Tickles, Black Pressure — in an interview with NewNowNext

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  1. ken
    October 13, 06:45 Reply

    Old age is only beautiful when you have someone to share your life with. Its the drive to be desired that makes gay men obsess about youth.
    Plus gay men are extremely shallow!

    *quote me anywhere

    • Mandy
      October 13, 07:10 Reply

      I’m with you at the beginning of your comment, ken. Old age only looks good when you, as a gay man or really just anyone, gay or straight, have somebody to spend it with. It’s a nightmare I find myself waking up from every now and then – the prospect of waking up old and alone. *shudder*

      • Pink Panther
        October 13, 07:11 Reply

        Baba God will give u somebody to love in your old age in Jesus name! 😀

  2. Max
    October 13, 06:47 Reply

    Please there’s nothing good about ageing. Wrinkles, fatigue during most basic tasks, interaction with fewer people (because let’s face it, you’re old) and other bunch of stuff. Did I fail to mention >> closer to your grave?
    Just like a car, your market value decreases with age. Once you hit the magic age of 25 as a gay man, it starts dwindling.

    Bald Head(for those who have the susceptibility),weak erection, weak in bed during sex, tufia!. You gotta hate old age.

    • Pink Panther
      October 13, 06:48 Reply

      Lol. But Max, seeing as you hate gay men anyway, us being hoes and everything, shouldn’t you want to embrace the old age that will ensure you never have to get propositioned by all those hoes? 😀

    • pete
      October 13, 07:13 Reply

      Age of 25? *grabs fellow oldies like PP,DM,Kere,Gad* we are dwindling

      • Pink Panther
        October 13, 07:15 Reply

        Hahahahahahahahahahahahaa!!! Pete, dey dia. We have officially become obsolete in the Maxian world.

      • Dennis Macaulay
        October 13, 07:16 Reply

        My dear 25? That means me at almost 30 is antiquated na!

        This Max sef

        • obatala
          October 13, 07:57 Reply

          almost thirty? was it not on this blog you told us how you celebrated your thirtieth birthday? and that was least year.

          • Pink Panther
            October 13, 08:00 Reply

            That post did not say he was thirty, obatala.
            Check it and get your facts right before you start something.

          • Max
            October 13, 08:04 Reply

            I never saw such post @Obatala, stop trying to stir up some dust.

  3. pete
    October 13, 07:10 Reply

    “I think older men are super sexy.”

    Me too

  4. Dennis Macaulay
    October 13, 07:15 Reply

    I used to be paranoid about getting older, but not anymore. At my last birthday I was totally chilled and happy with my new age because getting older is a privilege denied to so many people. We should celebrate it.

    It will happen, so rather than fighting it prepare for it by making healthy choices; exercise, very good eating habits, take care of your body and pack in as many amazing memories as you can into your lifetime.

    I look forward to when I am 70 living in a retirement home of the coast of some exquisite country and listening to Billy Joel. I sincerely hope the Orishas allow me the gift of longevity

    • Pink Panther
      October 13, 07:17 Reply

      *calmly eyeing next year and the 30-age mark*
      Oh what a beautiful beautiful day that birthday will be. 😀

      • Dennis Macaulay
        October 13, 07:28 Reply

        My Omalicha you know me and you can work something out.

        You really don’t have to! Think of how wonderful I have been to you

        **inserts puppy eyes smiley**

        • Pink Panther
          October 13, 07:29 Reply

          HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAA!!! I actually laughed really hard at this. The evil kind of hard laughter.

  5. Silver Cat
    October 13, 07:28 Reply

    I don’t know about U but I’ve started preparing for old age. I’ve even picked a partner for those golden years, someone whose quick wit and sense of humour are equal to mine. We’ll never have a dull moment.
    And as for wrinkles and all that, aging gracefully doesn’t just happen. In as much as my genetic pool is to die for, I’m working towards it. I mean look at Ian Mckellen and Sean Connery and Julie Andrews and Maggie Smith

    • Pink Panther
      October 13, 07:30 Reply

      You’ve picked a partner for those golden years? Please tell me the supermarket you shopped this partner from? I’ve been hunting for a golden-years partner myself. 😀

      • Dennis Macaulay
        October 13, 07:36 Reply

        Taaaa stopitdia!

        Rumor has it you have found one already!

        Abi you want me to expose you?

        • Max
          October 13, 08:08 Reply

          Lmfao @Dennis.????. A meme comes to mind;

          “Glad you’ve found the love of your life, for the third time this year” @Pinky

          • Jon Snow
            October 13, 10:33 Reply

            With all the lovey lovey on aunty Pinky’s Dp I’m hoping this one last longer than Taylor Swift’s next five. ???? Max you have no chill LMAO

            • Pink Panther
              October 13, 11:20 Reply

              The thunder that will faya you eh, Jon Snow, it will evaporate the little you know. Nonsense and condiments!

              • Jon Snow
                October 13, 11:33 Reply

                oochim!! bur-ayam wishing you well na. at least if asoebi no reach me, I know I wee be among flower gehs.
                ?? ? ?

  6. Chizzie
    October 13, 07:51 Reply

    Well of course gay men worry more about ageing, because we are generally vain people and highly aesthetic driven . Plus anal sex doesn’t seem exactly flattering when one gets to a certain age. There’s the worry about anal retentiveness and most of ndi power bottoms might become incontinent before they hit 40. So why won’t the gays be worried

    PS : This would’ve been the perfect post to be extremely shady, but not today Satan. You have used me long enough.

  7. Colossus
    October 13, 08:46 Reply

    Old age is inevitable, isn’t it better to be prepared for it than to be totally gobsmacked when you hit 30? Since we now view 30 as the new 50?
    Let me carry my 60year old body to work biko.

  8. Vhar.
    October 13, 09:07 Reply

    Age is a seasoned trickster. To our parents, we will always be children. Within ourselves, the same yearnings of youth; the same aspirations of adolescence, will last a lifetime. Only to the young – blinded by the grey hair and slowing gait – do we appear old and frail.

    Truth is some people age, and some just dehydrate.

    And it won’t be that we’ll have more patience as we grow older, I believe we’ll be too tired to care about all the pointless drama.

    Enjoy growing up, it’s pure bliss.
    Especially when wisdom resides in the cores of our mind.

  9. Sinnex
    October 13, 09:55 Reply

    What about those who look older than their age?

    It is just so frustrating that a 26 year old would be asked ‘are you sure you are 26 or this is your official tb age?’ WTF!!!

    I wonder what would happen when I get older.

    The man is right sha.

    • pete
      October 13, 10:31 Reply

      Sinnex, which one is tb age? Is it like football age? Where do you guys meet all these dumb peeps?

    • Tiercel de Claron
      October 13, 15:28 Reply

      You do look 29-30 @Sinnex.
      Why that should bother you tho is what I don’t know about.
      I’m in my thirties,grey-haired,but that’s never bothered me a day.

  10. Khaleesi
    October 13, 10:43 Reply

    I can’t lie, aging scares the bejesus crap outta me!!! To think that one day i’ll look in the mirror and not like what i see; to think that one day the body i’ve managed to keep firm and supple will abandon me and migrate downwards … haaa … if that isnt scary, then what is?? However, i’ve slowly started to come to terms with the fact that Father time is relentless and merciless; he spares no one! from the moment you’re born, you’re in the cross-hairs and can only evade his shots for so long. I’ve resolved to live as fully as i can, to pack in as many experiences as i can find at to live with few regrets; so far i’ve been remarkably successful with that. As for finding someone to share the old lonely grey and saggy days with you; hmmm … these men ain’t loyal!!!! Most men i know, no matter their age, want to chase after the next hot young thing; so … i reckon my best bet is to find true happiness from within independent of anyone …
    ***** gets down on the floor for the umpteenth time to do yet another round of exercises after a day of eating nothing but cucumbers and diet coke*** ****we must look trim and young-ish by fire by force****

    • Max
      October 13, 11:06 Reply

      ??Khaleesi, my fellow oldageophobia. Be careful of all those cucumbers you’re eating oh.

    • Pink Panther
      October 13, 11:18 Reply

      Cucumbers are a part of your diet, ei? Interesting.

      • Jon Snow
        October 13, 11:39 Reply

        Quote me anywhere. Succulent cucumbers are good for the body and soul. That watery feel on your tongue as it slips into your mouth
        **sweet shudder**

        #Okbye

    • Francis
      October 13, 17:46 Reply

      ???

      #TeamExtremeDieters ??

      Some peeps don’t age well and that’s what I’m scared of. Vanity is how some of us deal with our self-esteem issues sha. ?

  11. Delle
    October 13, 12:25 Reply

    Why would anyone gladly welcome wrinkles and back aches? Ehn kwa?
    Thank God 4 my teen age…have no business with the old world for now *filing nails*
    Feeling so much pity for the likes of Pink, Pete, Dennis…how horrible it must be to know that your approaching the ‘papa’ status! Rotfl

  12. Teflondon
    October 13, 13:15 Reply

    “True Beauty lies within” sadly these words doesn’t exist in the Dictionary of the LGBT Community. ‘Most’ Gay people are Vain and Shallow to say the least. we are always seeking peoples approval of our state of being. Hence, why we try to look young. there is this (False) notion that when you look young you are more attractive and thus your chances of being accepted or wanted increases in the community. while some might argue it to be true but this says a lot about the community when people go extra mile just to look and remain young. of cause this notion or behavior is not only exclusive to the gay community but its paramount. We all hate old-age because of our mentality and inferiority complex. (No Thanks to the world at large in the first place). There is a difference between trying to look and stay healthy while graciously accepting old age and trying really hard to look literally (dressing, demeanor, Character etc) young, big difference, the latter is most of the gay peoples problem.

    I was once told ‘constant sex with young bloods keeps one fresh, young and full of life in Old age’. Hmmmm! i would be lying if i said that wasn’t one the best bit of advice have gotten.

    • Max
      October 13, 13:45 Reply

      Help me lord, help me, help me Jesus, help me lord.
      Each time I try to do right by you, people be getting on my nerves with atrocious comments.

      Help me Jesus
      That I may look the other way in the face of their blondeness
      Help me lord so that I may overlook the hideousness and filth that comes out of their mouth
      Help me so that I could look the other way and smile when they utter their ghastly comments.
      Lastly, I pray that you help lead them in your path oh lord, I pray to you lord so that you may wash off the filth that is dwelling in their skull. Wash them in your blood and make them clean once more so that they’ll stop seeing the world from their crooked glasses.

      Amen!!

      • Mitch
        October 13, 15:51 Reply

        MAX! MAX ooooooooooo! Chim. You wee nor kee somborri with your evul. Tueh!

      • Brian Collins
        October 13, 22:50 Reply

        Blondeness has got to be the synonym of dumbness, innit?

  13. Tobby
    October 13, 14:26 Reply

    Everyoneo is worried about aging. Only a few admit it.

  14. Jamie
    October 13, 18:28 Reply

    With some effort, the oldest can be the sexiest!!!

    • Brian Collins
      October 13, 22:54 Reply

      Right you are, just ask Peter Parros *Google is alwaya your friend*

      • Francis
        October 13, 22:58 Reply

        #ThatsHot. Ageing with plenty grace

      • Pink Panther
        October 13, 23:22 Reply

        I googled him. Good lord Jesus! That is one heck of a sexy DILF!

        • Brian Collins
          October 14, 06:29 Reply

          More like a sexy DILM – M being Marry. Caught sight of him in Tyler Perry’s ‘The Haves and Have Nots’. That Tyler Perry can sabi to use beautiful black men for his movies ehn.

  15. Stranger
    October 16, 22:12 Reply

    I’m the only one who wants to look older. I look younger than my age and it irritates me.

    • Francis
      October 17, 01:27 Reply

      Lol. I’m guessing peeps don’t respect you cause you look like a small boy abi? Nna men, like I say to skinny folks dying to put on weight, the other side has a dark side to it too.

      Just find a way of making peace with your current situation and enjoy it cause you might come to dislike what lies in the future unless you’re destined to be a hot silver fox??

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