Nothing Truly Beautiful Ever Asks For Attention

Nothing Truly Beautiful Ever Asks For Attention

“Nothing truly beautiful ever asks for attention.”

This quote has stuck with me ever since I heard my coworker speak the words. Nothing truly beautiful ever asks for attention – it just naturally exists, as it is, in confidence and boldness.

Remember this the next time you chase someone you think you love. Remember this the next time you feel as if you need to compete for the attention of someone you admire. Generationally speaking, we often feel the need to prove ourselves to the heart we regard. We often feel the need to change ourselves to better suit their needs. We often wonder if we are exactly what they are looking for, or if they have other options. I have heard the sentiment many times over, I have seen it dissect beautiful moments and sensationalize less than beautiful relationships. Stop the “If onlys” and the “But maybes.” Trust me when I say that those do not exist within the boundaries of the love you want. They only exist within the reality of the love you chase.

The most awe-inspiring person I ever had the privilege of loving planted his feet firmly in front of me and said, “This is what I want.” There was courage, transparency. There was declaration.

There was no insecurity, there was no need to compare myself to others or compete. The most awe-inspiring person I ever had the privilege of loving chose me every single day, and I chose him. When that wasn’t the case, we parted ways. We didn’t drag it out. We didn’t try to convince the other. We didn’t feel the need to grip, and chase something that did not fulfill us or inspire us. It was natural, and organic, and it allowed for me to feel deeply and confidently.

That is the kind of love you want.

Do not chase another human being. Instead, chase your curiosity. Chase your development and your goals. Chase your passion. Strive to work for something bigger than yourself, and instead of trying to convince someone that you fit within their world, strive to build your own.

Relationships are not melting pots. They are unions. You walk into them with your own visions, your own hunger, and when you are confident in that, when you allow for that to thrive within you, you never break yourself down to appease the pursuit. You simply exist, as you are, and when you meet someone who does as well, when you meet someone who chooses you within that, you thrive together, and that creates a dynamic that is ever growing and influential. Nothing beautiful ever asks for attention. Let that be a testament. The truly carnal relationship, the attraction, the pull to another human being – it simply survives. It flourishes. It is the kind of beauty that lives within ribcages, that surges throughout bones, that you cannot explain, that allows you to “just know.” It is never bred from contest; it is never bred from uncertainty. You will never have to work to inspire it within someone, because it will simply exist within them.

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  1. eli
    January 14, 07:46 Reply

    truer words have never been spoken. tenku for this

  2. Anonymous
    January 14, 08:13 Reply

    If you dont like what you see, don’t try changing it. Just waka far

  3. Arabian Princess
    January 14, 09:11 Reply

    This speaks to me. Because I love being loved, I chased love for a long time without truly taking time to love myself.
    I decided late last year to start a sort of Self Love therapy. This helps

  4. ambivalentone
    January 14, 10:20 Reply

    Yes yes, but when either of you get bored, leave it. Don’t work for the return of ur happiness. Don’t fight the stagnancy and tedium that it will most assuredly come with. That is all I see this person wrote. I wasn’t surprised I kept seeing ‘was’ instead of ‘is’. No wonder the earth is destroyed daily. This is for people LOOKING TO BE IN LOVE. And UNLESS there is abuse of any kind in an existing relationship, if it was truly love from both parties, a little attention WILL bring it to life again.

  5. IBK
    January 14, 15:39 Reply

    This is beautiful and all but it has a sort of “whatever will be will be” ignoring the fact that as humans we can influence whatever should be.

    Sometimes people won’t notice something beautiful until it catches their attentiontion. Sometimes people learn to see something as beautiful with time.

    Relationships require work and some level of compromise and change. To think otherwise is folly for the relationship.

    The article is nice but it has too many holes..

  6. Jo
    January 14, 17:31 Reply

    Love, love this!

    I believe what the writer tried to say was, ‘If it is not working, walk it out’ That may sound defeatist, but then reality and pragmatism would teach that sometimes it is better to walk away than trying to fix things.

  7. El
    January 19, 12:02 Reply

    Lovely. Especially “and instead of trying to convince someone that you fit within their world, strive to build your own. “

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