A Straight Woman’s Point Of View…

A Straight Woman’s Point Of View…

In a bid to show my solidarity for Kenny Badmus, I updated my BBM display picture with his profile, and updated some message I can’t now remember on my pm. So, of course, I had friends who came trolling with questions and remarks and opinions. One of them was a female friend of mine; and below is a screengrab of part of what we chatted about.

Screen_20150109_093138This sort of amused me. I mean, really, gay men don’t deserve to have good looking fellow men to shag?

On my other, more mainstream blog, where I also updated Kenny’s coming out, another straight female said as part of her comment: ‘…I have a gay friend, finest guy I know. For some reason they now seem to be blessed with good looks…’

AH! We don suffer! So, before we woh-woh, abi? Chai! Diaris God o.

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  1. Ace
    January 14, 04:24 Reply

    Lol. We know how to kill it one way or another. Either by being handsome, high taste in fashion, cleanliness, great cooking or everything join! Not our fault. Lol.

  2. Peak
    January 14, 04:38 Reply

    Lol…….gay men are just wired specially. If gay guy is not blessed with Good looks, they always compensate with something else, a banging body, a sky high IQ, well mannered, good taste/ very creative (I think most of us come with that chip)……and list goes on.
    Girl and women ve always pointed out that their BF/Husband ever are/were gay

    • pinkpanthertb
      January 14, 04:54 Reply

      On my timeline, there was a mini war going on concerning Kenny’s coming out, and some females were just going daggers at the dude.

      Then a friend of mine, a KDian had this to say:
      ‘The epic thing about his coming out is that he is cute,successful,masculine,muscular and a man of integrity. A big wipe on the notion all gay men are soft,feminine and skinny.’

      I laughed hard when I saw that. It was like, Take That, Beeches! 🙂

  3. Dennis Macauley
    January 14, 05:13 Reply


    Oh I have several stories like this. Its hilarious; well we are good looking and we take care of our bodies!

    Beat that!!!

  4. chestnut
    January 14, 05:52 Reply

    Those beeshes better believe that the most physically beautiful specimen of men they’ll ever come across are gay men… Really; I know this might sound like stereotyping(or wishful thinking), but when a guy is tooooo fine/hot (Ebuka Uchendu, Alexx Ekubo, Kenneth Okolie et al)…well,it would be a waste to waste all that hotness only on women *Muahaha*

  5. #TeamKizito
    January 14, 05:54 Reply


    The notions most people have: If he’s ‘too fine’, he’s gay.

    Someone once said, the worst thing that can happen to a man is: Being gay, ugly & broke. Hmm.

      • Max
        January 14, 06:18 Reply

        Hahahahahaha hahahahahaha.. True

      • Chuck
        January 14, 10:23 Reply

        Well, it will take a while, but you can be sure the ass you get wants you for you.

      • Ace
        January 14, 13:08 Reply

        Hahahaha no chizzie you didn’t! I swear i laughed like crazy in public for this. Noooooooo. Chizzie Nooooooo stop the evilness!

  6. Max
    January 14, 06:15 Reply

    Lol.. We r cute and Fab.. They should deal with it. I think their problem is that when they see us, what goes through their mind is- “damn, another cute dude that I can’t shag”.. We r disadvantageous to Nigerian women who see marriage as an achievement. So the more gay people there are, the less chance of getting a husband for them. Oh I forgot to add cute, yeah cute husband ☺☺☺

    • Ace
      January 14, 13:10 Reply

      True that. Max.

  7. Ueze
    January 14, 06:35 Reply

    One time on my Facebook wall, I wrote;
    We are the best of everything.
    A lot of my friends thought it was a ‘think-it-and-you-are-it-yada-yada’ Facebook pep rally, and kept liking and agreeing.
    If only they knew.

    • pinkpanthertb
      January 14, 08:01 Reply

      I have a similar situation. I recently uploaded a pic on Facebook with the single word: Live.
      And a girl who days before had been fuming about gay people turning away from their ‘sins’ liked the pic and commented ‘Yes we should all do that everyday’
      Such irony. To believe people should have a right to live and yet have a problem with that living being the existence of a gay person

  8. KyrxxX
    January 14, 07:26 Reply

    *face palm* Hmmn! That “broke, ugly nd gay” part in some of the comments got me oh! Am all that……….. Maybe that’s y am alone.

    • pinkpanthertb
      January 14, 07:29 Reply

      Thats not something you want to admit to Chizzie’s hearing. Lol

    • chestnut
      January 14, 07:39 Reply

      Liar! The cute ones always say that.

    • MacArdry
      January 14, 07:41 Reply

      You lie,KyrxxX.
      You know that’s nowhere near the truth.

    • KyrxxX
      January 14, 10:22 Reply

      @Pinky……. Who? Chizzie? Hmmn! I just reserve my comment on that one.
      @Chestnut……… Lol! Are u sure? Its good to tell oneself d truth oh!
      @Mac………. U sound like you know me very well or has seen me. Very sure………

  9. Absalom
    January 14, 07:53 Reply

    I hope you guys added Narcissism to one of your…qualities.

    Just checking on you boys. Bye! 😛

    • Ueze
      January 14, 09:01 Reply

      Narcissists are compulsive selfie-takers.
      Compulsive male selfie-takers have psychopathic tendencies.

      Says the Ohio state university, uhhh…….3 days ago, I think?

    • Ace
      January 14, 13:21 Reply

      I swear! The selfie bit is so true especially the written post that comes with it. These days you can now tell who is gay not only by their compulsive selfie taking, the way they write don follow.

  10. Paul
    January 14, 08:03 Reply

    N Gay guys r d best advice givers on relationship issues.
    D girl starts to wonder if only she could date ds perfect guy not knowing dey both r on a “Heavenly race” in search of d same man.

    • Peak
      January 14, 09:20 Reply

      Paul you are right there! They give the best relationship advice.but I think they are clueless when it comes to their own personal relationship

      • Paul
        January 14, 12:50 Reply

        Dats cos we have shitty relationships based on ephemeral and mundane tins
        Relationships dat lack a base, how then do u expect much of it?
        An average hetero relationship tends to b headed somewhr but down here in our ville, u hear dem say” afterall nobody is marrying anybody” so pple jst hide under d name of a relationship to shag till we get tired and move on to d other.
        D cycle continues

  11. JustJames
    January 14, 08:15 Reply

    The few gay people I knew in nigeria when I was younger were wowo. I thought it would be like that for the rest of them. Heck… I even wondered if I was ugly too.

    • Peak
      January 14, 09:28 Reply

      James I’m still waiting to meet the “OMG! he is fine” gay guy. you know like the celebs u see on tv. All I see is “you no try” and average like me typa guys. Well my advice is if you no try in the looks department? Invest heavily in cloths, swag,Exposure, good attitude, social skills and you are good to go

    • Max
      January 14, 13:51 Reply

      @Peak, considering the fact that you’re a late bloomer, I’m not surprised…

  12. tobby
    January 14, 08:47 Reply

    lol at ppl here

    We’re all fugly!

    • Max
      January 14, 10:31 Reply

      Honey, you’re on your own.

      • pinkpanthertb
        January 14, 10:44 Reply

        Yes, honey. Totally on your own. I mean, have you seen Max? 🙂

      • Max
        January 14, 13:53 Reply

        Lol @PP, no drag my leg for road oh..
        Let’s indite Khallie boo… He’s a total catch too.

      • Khaleesi
        January 14, 15:37 Reply

        biko … una no see me ooo … ***throws Hijab and shawl over face and scampers away on bright red louboutins****

  13. Vhar.
    January 14, 09:48 Reply

    We are just “IT”.
    IT being… Everything they ever wished for.

  14. Mr Kassy
    January 14, 11:21 Reply

    @All I thought it was just me but we gay guys are just awesome in all ramification.we are the cutest of all men,intelligent(brainy),funny,good advisers and listeners,best cooks,favourite kids(ofcourse),fashion icons,models(ofcos,if not all of them),male contestants like all these Mr Nigeria stuff,the most trusted in the family,gay guys can equally manage stress and handle pressure so well….the list is much.Lemme not even talk about being women magnet;women are more attracted to us than our straigth folks.But why wount they when we have all those qualities.

    • Absalom
      January 14, 11:33 Reply

      And yet depression and suicide rates keep rising among us.

      Una never talk true! 😛

      • Max
        January 14, 13:54 Reply

        Lol @Absie, tell me you’ve never thought of ” a way out”.. Tell me that and I’ll rest my case.

      • Absalom
        January 14, 16:06 Reply

        Nah. Never. Where’d I have found the courage? 🙂

  15. Khaleesi
    January 14, 15:43 Reply

    to the girl who posted that, i say: ***Tongue out***, if God hates us so much, why does he make a lot of us so fab – gorgeous, talented and creative. We know that men are visual creatures who are moved mainly by what they see as opposed to the womenfolk who are moved more by what they hear… we realise that we gotta look good in order to score the best meat in the gaybourhood, so we are often willing to go the extra mile to look good … extra skincare, meticulous diets and exercise and a more wholesome lifestyle. Which is why when i see a lot of straight guys who feel uncomfortable around gays cos they think we are going to try to fuck them somehow (assuming that was possible), i look at them with barely concealed disdain and think to myself “why would i want to shag – you? you’re out of shape and not attractive + you just dont have that extra “oomph” that a lot of gay men have, the extra “oomph” is what attracts me to other gay men”, stop flattering yourself please, i’d much rather jerk off than touch you” …

  16. IVANKO
    January 15, 09:21 Reply

    Lolll Lolll my fRd once told me, y’ll aRe just too cute to be queer, yaa we a fab lik dat.

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