He is French and about forty-five years old. (Let’s call him Pierre) A friend of mine introduced me to him sometime last year. At the time, he was living with his Cameroonian boyfriend. We visited them often, and we’d have lunch together and discuss vast issues. It was always fun.

And then, he split from his boyfriend, but our friendship blossomed. When it seemed as though he was putting the works on me, I made it clear to him that I don’t feel sexually attracted to men who are very much older than I am. He told me he respected my decision, and we continued being friends.

And then, he invited me to lunch at his place. We’d been talking about a wide range of LGBT issues through phone chats, and I figured lunch would be a good opportunity to rehash some of those talks and revisit the areas we disagreed on. And so, I honoured the lunch date on the late afternoon about two weeks ago.

When I arrived, he had already prepared a very delicious-looking Chicken Sauce with Couscous. We ate and drank. I absolutely enjoyed the meal. A delicious meal is one sure-fire way to seduce me. I didn’t drink much though, because I’m never comfortable drinking when I’m not in my house.

After the repast, we started talking. The atmosphere was calm and I was stuffed, all of them factors that contributed to making me very comfortable. Pierre doesn’t speak English very well, and because I enjoy conversations in French, we carried on our gist in his native language. And you know how romantic French sounds… So, even though I still felt weird being all alone in his apartment with him (something that had never happened before), I felt too relaxed to suddenly start leaving now that lunch was over.

And then, during a lull in our conversation, Pierre was suddenly close to me, and started touching me. His hands were on my thighs, and then his fingers were on my fly, unzipping my pants. The awkwardness I felt seeping away earlier began to return as I looked futilely for a way to tell the forty-five-year-old man to stop touching me. I felt like I had to respect him. I was speechless to object to his amorousness, even though I wasn’t enjoying it.

Then, he grabbed my arms and led me to the bedroom. I followed. I couldn’t believe I was still being docile. But yes, I followed him inside. He locked the windows and turned on the AC. He also closed the window shades, because the windows were all glass, and he lived on the first floor of a 25-storey building.

Then he pushed me gently back on the bed, and began working my dick over with his tongue. My libido was as flat as a slate at first, but because he was a good worker, I soon felt blood rushing down south at some point. He continued the workout session, his tongue flicking over my erection, his lips sliding over the shaft, taking it in and out with practiced ease. I simply lay there, staring at him with a certain detachment that felt odd to me, seeing as I was already turned on.

Then he noticed my detachment, saw that I wasn’t responding as expected. And what he did next was totally unexpected.

He raised his hand and gave me a very hot slap!

Yes, you read right. A hot Naija parent’s slap across my cheek. My eyes stung and my ears began ringing. Before I could react, he leaned forward and told me – no, ordered me – to slap him back. In a fierce whisper, he added that I should slap him back harder.

In that moment, I didn’t know what to feel; whether to be mad about the unexpected slap and push him away from me, or to revenge by giving him a very profound slap with my rough palm. (Yes, my palms are rough and dry lol). My eyes were still smarting with tears from his slap and my mood had soured, and that decided it for me. I went for the latter. I swung back my hand and gave him a very dirty slap, a blow driven by anger.

And with that, I expected him to turn red and then push off from me, freeing me to leave. But for where kwanu? His cheek turned a pinkish-red, yes. But he didn’t free me. Instead, he shouted, “Yes, baby!” And then, he climbed on top of me, sufficiently quashing any thoughts I might have had about my freedom. He commanded me to bite his nipples. I hesitated, but he pushed my head close to his chest, squashing my face against his skin and nearly choking me in the process. You know how an impatient mother shoves her breast inside the mouth of her crying baby to get him to shut and suck… Yes, that was how I got force-fed Pierre’s nipple. My annoyance mounted at this, and I clamped my teeth down hard on the proffered nipple. He shouted again and arched his body toward me, asking me not to stop, commanding me to continue. He was jerking about like a hungry lion. Honestly if you had seen him before this shit, you would never have believed that a nice-looking man like him could get this crazy.

At this point, something angry was permanently triggered inside me. I felt very upset by him and I wanted to pay back, to cause him pain. I wasn’t myself any longer. My dick was now as hard as a cement beacon and I was determined to deal with the man. I reached my hands behind him and slapped his ass repeatedly, alternating that with twisting his nipples with my fingers, pinching hard with my long nails to make him hurt. My attitude was defensive, as though I was attacking someone who’d been attacking me. I hit him so hard in the back when he got off me and bent to suck me. But he simply moaned with pleasure, not letting my cruel enthusiasm stop him from sucking me off. At a time, he was like, “Fais-le comme un africain vas-y vas-y!” Slap me like an African that you are, baby! C’mon, c’mon!

Lol. As I write this, recalling what happened makes me chuckle with amusement, but amusement was the last thing on my mind at the time.

Anyway, I eventually came. He sucked me till I climaxed, while using a dildo on himself. And then, he wanked himself and came as well. He gave me a fresh towel and asked me to go and shower. I went into the bathroom, showered and returned to the bedroom to start apologizing to him for my behaviour, which had begun to appall me. He brushed my apologies aside, telling me he too didn’t know what came over him, saying it’d been long he had this kind of fun.

As he said this, I wondered wryly if this was one of the reasons his Cameroonian lover fled from the relationship.

So after all had been said, I got dressed and was about to leave when he called me back and handed me 500dh, which is approximately 10 thousand naira. I thought about rejecting the money, but I felt too indecisive about what to do. I eventually took only 20dh (about 400 naira) for my taxi back home and gave him back 480dh. When I got home, he sent me a text saying that he was sorry and asking me to lunch again. He promised that he would not touch me again.

Akuko! Which gods was he telling that story to? Who will go there again? Not me biko!

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  1. Chuck
    July 04, 05:09 Reply

    Wasn’t that rape – y to start with?

    • Ace
      July 04, 05:23 Reply

      Nope, it isn’t rape-y. Some people *coughs ‘like yours truly’* are turned on by some form of mild pain. I guess this could be described as 50 shades of gay.

      • Chuck
        July 04, 11:43 Reply

        Didd his old white man know that he was turned on by mild pain? Did he ask? Still rape-y, my friend. he did not get consent.

        Seems a lot of people are ok with this kind of behavior, no wonder.

  2. wytem
    July 04, 05:22 Reply

    Nice one…
    But wait, You were not enjoying his action and you neither stopped him nor left the scene? You stayed out of respect?
    Ok o…. Make sure you dont endanger yourself out of respect.

  3. #TeamKizito
    July 04, 05:49 Reply

    Lmao. I never read finish… I’m coming back! *still laughing*


  4. Oluwadamilare Okoro
    July 04, 06:39 Reply

    From the first sentence, I could tell this piece was by Garrison. Very typical of him… it’s not rocket science.

    • pete
      July 04, 06:49 Reply

      have you received the gift too? may the giver of this gift locate me too.

    • chestnut
      July 04, 07:12 Reply

      Lol…I see what u did there, okoro…carry on.

    • Deola
      July 04, 07:21 Reply

      **opens curtains to let the Light in**

    • JArch
      July 04, 07:33 Reply

      Sgt Okoro, biko has Garrison ever written a post or commented on someone else’s post before?


      • JArch
        July 04, 07:58 Reply

        Ghen ghen

        Deola please bring your picnic basket ooo and those lovely mint teas of yours. It’s a nice and “breezy” day, so we should expect foul nyash to open soon.

        Absie dear you’re welcome to join us too

      • garrisson
        July 04, 07:58 Reply

        Jarch actually this is my third entry on kd. there is “love in the gaybourhood” and there is also “and now he knows” both by me.

      • pinkpanthertb
        July 04, 08:23 Reply

        Garrison, relax. Okoro is just shading some KDians in a household joke.

      • JArch
        July 04, 08:23 Reply

        Garrison my sincere apologies. Its It’s been quite a while we saw you in these parts (by commenting ie), so when you listed the piece you wrote, i went back to look for them and in one i was an active commenter.

        But my ish isn’t with you, rather it’s with Okoro, so claims to know you and all that yadie-yada

      • Oluwadamilare Okoro
        July 04, 11:30 Reply

        @Garrison I don’t know u. Like PP said it’s an household joke.

        @Jarch I merely tapped into the annointing that has been lingering over the KD-atmosphere.

  5. kacee
    July 04, 06:47 Reply

    Lol, bdsm in the lowest angle lol

  6. Gad
    July 04, 06:48 Reply

    This is so disgusting. The french guy actually thought you are trash and he treated you like one. Just like yesterday’s post where I predicted that the poem sounds like Vhar writing for Max, I was expecting to see some exchange of cash or gift in the end and it happened. When I was 13 the then Bishop on the Niger in a sermon said ” God has not created a 2nd class citizen but you are a 2nd class citizen if you make yourself one”. You don’t have to tell us if you took all the cash or not neither are you under obligation to inform us when you honor another invitation for free food. If that 45 yrs old goat where to be a Nigerian I wonder if you will not walk out of his door the moment he starts disrespecting you. Anyway, my only pain is that him and his fellow countrymen will be thinking that all African young men are like you.

    • JaneTheVirgin
      July 04, 07:39 Reply

      Hey Old Roger, You dont need to tell us what happened in 1906 when u were 13.

      ’45yr old goat’? Really? I see no reason why u called the man a ‘goat’ tho. Thought you Senior Citizens had each other’s back.

      • Gad
        July 04, 08:33 Reply

        Seeking for my attention? When next you want it, base it on issues. However, I guess I satisfied your quest today. It might not happen again except you learn from dear Max. He strikes me as enlightened apart from his manners.Learn from him

      • JaneTheVirgin
        July 04, 09:13 Reply

        Your attention? iLaff….It’s ok to say u r obsessed with Max, coz this is the 2nd time u mentioned his name in an unrelated sentence, sorry to burst your bubble grandpa, Max aint into Oldies with powdery semen.

    • garrisson
      July 04, 08:07 Reply

      Mr Gad you mean that after reading this post…the best explanation you could come up with is that i honoured his invitation for free food? i won’t finally blame pierre…it is obvious people lose some of their senses as they get older

      • Gad
        July 04, 08:37 Reply

        Won’t it be a disaster not to have any sense to lose at all at old age?

    • Chris
      July 04, 08:16 Reply

      Hey Gad, the frenchman is entirely blamess, bear in mind, that this was a sexual liason between two consenting adult. There was no rape or assault involved. With all due respect your view is judgemental on
      the parties involved. How is the weekend though?

      • Peak
        July 04, 09:27 Reply

        Bless ur heart dear chris. Bless you

      • Gad
        July 04, 14:02 Reply

        Well, we all feel differently and look @ issues differently. I can’t stand the touch of someone who I’m not sexually attracted to talk more of bearing the things described by the writer. At a young age one should know when and how to say know. The french guy took advantage of Garrison for reasons we already know. Bear in mind that he has already told the white guy that he is not sexually attracted to him and he agreed to respect that.

  7. trystham
    July 04, 07:21 Reply

    I saw the ‘out of respect’ part and I connected instantly. You give a lot of fucks about how someone feels as a result of ur action (or inaction). Pity sex will only get u into trouble tho.

  8. ruby
    July 04, 07:23 Reply

    If someone were to give me such a slap, so help me the return match would put you out cold….

  9. GOld
    July 04, 07:25 Reply

    Crazy on so many levels

  10. chestnut
    July 04, 07:27 Reply

    Nothing makes me more uncomfortable that the idea of “BDSM”. What if someone gets carried away in d heat of the moment? What if I get my head broken with a bottle? What if I have my nipple or dick chewed off,all in d name of “bite me baby…bite me HAAARD!”? Sex is meant to be pleasure and sweetness, not pain and torture. Hian!

    • Absalom
      July 04, 07:43 Reply

      LOL. They have safe words na. Besides, would anyone really bite a penis that hard, enough to chew it off? You’ve killed him na! Why are you even biting him there – didn’t you see the nipples? Hian (x 2)

    • pete
      July 04, 07:59 Reply

      Sex is meant to be pleasure and sweetness, not pain and torture.

      nuttie,it should be a mixture of all of the above.

  11. Iyke
    July 04, 08:00 Reply

    This is the post that is meant to be titled “VIOLATED”! Not that whinning of a 10yrs old!
    And Mr Gad……………… Sometimes I wonder if u ever read through ur posts to b sure if it actually makes sense! With age comes wisdom, right?

    • trystham
      July 04, 09:38 Reply

      Wrong. Especially in extraordinarily rare cases like his.

  12. sensei
    July 04, 08:33 Reply

    I commend you for taking just t-fare. The majority would have grabbed all the money and even wished he offered more. You got self-respect. Well done!

  13. Peak
    July 04, 09:47 Reply

    Ok I ve a lot of dirty things to say about this, but in the spirit of ramadan, I will keep it as clean as possible.

    This is nothing more that Steamy-Hot-Dirty-Sex! I swear I felt a rush of blood when the 1st slap happened, and more blood was pumped when the arch back rewarded the nipple bite. I’m sorry but sex should be raw, unscripted and beautiful. Soft, sweet, pleasurable, hard, rough, fast, slow, painful (if u can handle it)etc. Whatever works 4 u. I’m sure this will go down as the most memorable sexual encounter in ur life @Garrison. The slap got the job done. It got the heart racing and the blood pumping.
    I’m sorry if I don’t sound overly righteous like half of KD, but y’all sound like there is suppose to be standard manual that guide having sex! That’s the problem with ppl, once things are different from what we are use to, we turn up our nose in disgust. Pierre got raptured in the moment and before garrison cound wrap his brains around what was going on, he go caught in the moment too. Its sex and not maths that need a special or standardised formula.
    Garrison, guy that’s one helluva steamy play u had (too bad its not ur thing, and I’m most glad u aren’t going back even when u have something to gain #respect)
    Nice read.

    • garrisson
      July 04, 10:10 Reply

      thanks peak….don’t mind em all be getting all judgy today. nobody even cared to reason from the point that this man is 45 and single. i pitied him….because were friends before this incident happened. .he complained of loneliness.

      • Peak
        July 04, 10:20 Reply

        U pitied him? By having sex with him? I’m sorry bubba but u don’t wanna hear what I ve to say about ur …………..”Pitied”
        Cos it sounds like u are trying to throw pierre under the bus just to appear cool here. U guys had sex period! He made a move and u complied…….eventually!

      • garrisson
        July 04, 10:38 Reply

        read again…….i never denied that we had sex. and if you had understood my line of thoughts well you would have realized that i didn’t say i was violated…and i didn’t come to say i was raped either…i only meant that bdsm isn’t my thing…neither is older men. but i had to comply because of the situation he was in…..and out of respect…if you still don’t get it after these explanations…then OYO is your case bro

      • Peak
        July 04, 11:46 Reply

        Garrisson I perfectly understood you, but the use of the word pity? I don’t know. Don’t get me wrong, I ve have done things with ppl I didn’t plan to and felt bad and dirty afterwards cos to me it felt like pity sex. so I get u, but the truth of the matter is that we need to take responsibility 4 our actions. I consented, u consented. Adding pity to the sex is like disrespecting the other party which was what we were trying to avoid in the 1st place. That’s what I’m trying to explain, I’m not dissing u or anything. U agreed out of respect, I know. I also know that u felt bad afterwards. Just accept that it happened cos use of the word “Pity” defeats the purpose of “respect” that influence ur actions in the first place. It means u respected him long enough to degrade and disprespect him even more later. It happen accept it and make better choices in future. Apologies if u feel like I’m attacking u, just trying explain how I see the situation.

      • chestnut
        July 04, 11:48 Reply

        Oh my! This conversation went “side-ways” really fast!

      • Max
        July 04, 14:06 Reply

        @Chestnut, isn’t that surprising?

  14. Diablo
    July 04, 10:03 Reply

    White ppl are freaks in think we’ve established that. Meanwhile dh, what country’s currency is that?

    • Chuck
      July 04, 11:52 Reply

      Stereotypes, stereotypes. Maybe most of the white people you hear of /meet do freaky shit because they’ve paid and they feel they can do whatever they want

      • JamesJemima
        July 04, 15:09 Reply

        Still goes to prove his point that white men do freaky shit.

      • Chuck
        July 04, 16:39 Reply

        is it because they are white? or because they are rich and not raised by religious parents/ in a weirdly religious society? correlation is not causation

  15. Dennis Macaulay
    July 04, 10:26 Reply

    I am an avid BDSM-er and this was exciting! Vanilla sex is boring, try yellow chilli!

    That slap? I came reading this

    • chestnut
      July 04, 12:06 Reply

      Pervert oshi! Don’t u think if u slap a delicate insect like Korede Bello like that,he will just collapse? That is how u nearly killed an asthmatic child with ur prick…hehehe(Too soon?*tongue out*)

    • Ace
      July 04, 18:21 Reply

      Team slap that butt till it hurts! Woaoooaw! The harder the better.

  16. posh6666
    July 04, 10:51 Reply

    Lmaooooo freaky people.Garri nawao u tried imagine being slapped and some1 telling me to bite him lol.Abeg i can never ever allow that.White people r freaks thats y this days am kinda sceptical in meeting them for sex hookups before som1 will choke me to death or slam my head into d wall all in d name of sex????what will i go and tell God?honestly such will make me feel utterly disrespected n humiliated cant deal.Pls next time no pity fuck so if he actually gave u some hard drugs at that point u will have taken it?like why will u go out of ur way like that for another human who actually doesnt care about u cos if he did he will have asked u if u were into s&m.Lastly u really didnt collect all d money?pray tell why not?he had already humiliated u and there was no dignity left whatsoever.You didnt ask him for money he willingly gave u so why didnt u take it?some so called rich ones will insult me now for saying i will collect the money but thats me if u give me money after sex which i didnt ask for i will always collect it and buy myself something nice i didnt beg for it so the self righteous ones u are free to judge.

    • posh6666
      July 04, 10:55 Reply

      Pinkie did u get my recent mail?sent u a writeup are u gonna post it?

    • Gad
      July 04, 13:35 Reply

      As in ee. Materialism has blinded many people’s sense of values. I have a number of whites as friends and I knwo the impression they have of the average Nigerian. They believe that they can do anything to us and get away with it as far as they can pay

  17. Dennis Macaulay
    July 04, 11:04 Reply

    I am Nigerian and I like BDSM!

    So what are you people on about on white people?

    • posh6666
      July 04, 11:12 Reply

      Just when i was thinking of giving you my virginity dear Dennis.Anyways dont claim what u cant do oh.Can u go all d way?like being bitten,slapped,whipped,eat shit,get burnt etc cos if u cant do all this pls rest!

      • Dennis Macaulay
        July 04, 13:02 Reply

        There are diff levels Posh! You decide how far you wanna go plus there are safe words when things get out of hand

      • Max
        July 04, 14:09 Reply

        Looks like someone finally took my advice.
        Now that wasn’t so bad, was it?

        • posh6666
          July 04, 14:55 Reply

          Looking at you with *side eyes* dont get too comfy dear i can get back the old ways anytime.

  18. JArch
    July 04, 15:32 Reply

    Reading comments about white men being freaky to the extreme. Just makes me laugh cos this stereotypes are just amusing.

    Some should venture out more often you’d come across “black brothers” that are worse and do some freaky dicky stuff, i dare you to come out of there unscathed (without welts or hickey) or not to use an icepack and be able to sit for 2 days

    I am just laughing…

    • posh6666
      July 04, 15:55 Reply

      Not as much abeg. Very few blacks would be down with such.Well xcept they are being paid for it.

      • JArch
        July 04, 16:42 Reply

        Posh dear, like I said before, venture out more often and you’d be amazed. Just because it’s not common in your neck of the woods doesn’t mean it’s none existent or uncommon.

  19. pinkpanthertb
    July 04, 17:24 Reply

    It’s not fiction. Read the comments. The writer has verified it in his comments.

  20. posh6666
    July 04, 19:10 Reply

    Sex workers association.Lmaoooooo ashawo sef na work now any which way

  21. JArch
    July 04, 19:14 Reply

    Hahahaha Keredim you’re just a mess
    See me in private pronto for your punishment.

    Pontificating from certain quarters *sighs*

    What would I do with you. It’s such a lovely evening, no need for being shady lol

  22. Tristam Shandy
    July 05, 15:35 Reply

    Errrr “slap me like an African that you are”? I can’t be the only one who found this slightly offensive.
    Yet another example of the objectification of black men by cis gay white men.

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