Gay Law Student Puts Ex-gay Therapist In His Place

Gay Law Student Puts Ex-gay Therapist In His Place

This, you guys have to read. Stories don’t usually start with, “Harvard University outed me.” This one does. When Scott Blair took the LSATs and checked a box on his Harvard application that he was gay, the university gay law student group called his mother’s house. She asked the reason for the call, and they told her, “Well, he’s gay and applied and we’d really like him to come.”

Below is an account of what transpired in the aftermath of his application by the gay law student, Scott Blair. Read and enjoy.


My name is Scott Blair.

I’m from Ocean Grove, New Jersey. When you apply to law school these days, you can actually mark on your application if you are openly gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender. And, you know, I put that down, because I figured, why not? I was. And I did pretty well on the LSAT and this information goes out to a bunch of law schools. And so Harvard’s gay law students group called my mother’s house because that was my address, and said, “We want to talk to Scott Blair.”

And she said, “Why?”

“Well, he’s gay. We know he’s applying to law school. We really want him to go to Harvard.”

And so we’re in the car at one point, and she goes, “Scott, I got this call from Harvard Law’s gay student group saying you were gay.”

I’m like, “That’s weird. Why?”

“Well they want you to go there.”

I’m like, “Oh. Did you save the contact information?”


“Oh. How come?”

“Well, I was hoping you were lying to them in order to get into a better law school.”

I’m like, “Well, I probably would do that if I was straight, but actually I am gay.”

And she replies, “I almost want to drive this car into a tree.”

And I reply, “Can you let me get out of the car first?”

It was very weird because I still maintain that that is the best way for any mother to find out that their child is gay. And even though my father is an atheist and my mother is a nominal Catholic, they joined an Orthodox Jewish ex-gay group, as well as Parents and Friends of Ex-Gays, which is an ex-gay movement, surprisingly active in New Jersey. And I look at them and I say, “That is the opposite of the group that you are supposed to be joining right now. They literally stole the name of the group, Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays. That is the group you should be joining.” And they asked me to meet with somebody in this group – one of its leaders – to sort of understand what the homosexual lifestyle was about and what being gay was about. And I thought they were crazy. I still think they’re crazy for thinking that. But to humor them, I said I would go if they tried to be a little more open-minded.

So I met this guy at my father’s office in the summer of my second year of law school. And he comes in, sits down and he asks me, “So why are you gay?”

I’m like, “Well, I’m attracted to men.”

And he’s like, “Why are you attracted to men?”

And I’m like, “Well, probably pretty complicated. Maybe some hereditary thing. Maybe upbringing. You know, sexuality is very complicated.”

And he sort of goes into this weird diatribe about how no one has ever found a gay gene. And I’m looking at him. He tells me, “You know, every study that purported to find a gay gene has been authored by gays. No one else has ever found one.

And I said, “I have no idea what studies you’re talking about, but sexuality is very complex. Everything that humans do is very complex. All a gene does is control the expression of a protein. I would be extremely shocked if one gene can control anything like that.”

And he looked at me and is very confused because I don’t think that anyone had ever answered him in that manner before.

And so he continues sort of talking and he asks me about my childhood. And says, “Well I know you’re parents are divorced. How did that affect you?”

And I said, “Lots of people are divorced. It wasn’t great but I’m doing fine now.”

And he asked me if I hate my father for that, for the fact that my parents are divorced. And I said, “No, not really. I was raised by my father after the divorce.”

And then he asked me, “Okay. How do you feel about your mother?”

“Why do you ask?”

“Well a lot of times people who, people who are angry at their mother end up being turned off of women.”

And I looked at him and I said, “Okay. If I was angry at my mother, that would make me gay, because I would be turned off of women. But you asked me how I felt about my father. My guess is what you’re going to say is if I was angry at my father, that would make me want to seek the company of other men.”

And the guy looks at me and says, “That is often borne out by my experience.”

And I sort of blinked at him for a moment and said, “Isn’t that sort of contradictory? Which one of my parents I hate, which I don’t if they ever watch this, that made me gay?”

And he said, “Well it’s very complicated but often it’s something the parents have done.”

We tried to talk about how sexual immorality can lead to the fall of civilizations. And he brought up the Roman Empire. And I got very angry about this because half the books in my bookshelf are about the Roman Empire. And the point I made to him was the Roman Empire only fell after it became Christian. And he said, “Well they weren’t really Christian in any sense of the word that we would use today.” And I pointed out to him that St. Augustine was one of the most famous Christian theologists ever. And according to what this guy was telling me, he wasn’t actually a Christian. And I wanted to know what made him say that that was the case. And then he said, “Well, you know, they were very, very Catholic.”

And then I said, “You realize my mother is Catholic, right?” And he sort of then changed the conversation a little bit.

One thing that he tried to do was say that gays are trying to restrict the rights of religious people by trying to make it illegal to fire gays and lesbians. And I told him this is basically the same thing as saying African Americans are trying to restrict the rights of KKK members during civil rights movements. I didn’t see any difference and I still don’t see a difference.

And I was sort of like, “If we’re at this point in the conversation, I don’t know what we’re really talking about. All you’re doing as far as I can tell is getting everything wrong. If you want a reading list, I’m happy to give you one.”

And he was like, “Well, thank you for your time.” Then he walked out to go talk to my father for a little bit.

And it’s actually hard not to feel sorry for him. Because he was gay before he changed. He claims that he realized homosexuality was immoral in the 80s when he saw a lot of his friends dying from AIDS. And it’s hard to mock somebody for that because I do think that affected him. I don’t think it affected him in a healthy manner. I think there are a lot of people who had a better, more productive outcome. It’s easy to see how that would affect somebody.

My parents continued to be in this group for a little while longer after this happened. When he left, he told my father that I’m very much like him, which did make my father laugh a little bit. Because it’s certainly true – we both have a very strong argumentative and stubborn streak.

The relationship with my father now is interesting because we are very similar in a lot of ways. But we don’t talk about my sexual life at all, or my relationships at all. It’s a shame. The last time we talked about it, I said, “I’m not changing who I am.” He can deal with it or become a smaller part of my life. So we’re seeing how that plays out.

I would tell any kid that has to go see an ex-gay therapist or somebody who’s telling them that it’s wrong to be gay that they are smarter than somebody who thinks that and they are better than somebody who thinks that. And frankly any argument that somebody uses to support changing who you are and being straight is very, very bad. Very dumb. Thirty seconds of thought will show you why it’s wrong.

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  1. Christopher B!
    November 23, 07:15 Reply

    Wow… I’m totally impressed with his arguments which was based on facts. This is the reason I don’t joke with books. The enlightenment they give is more valuable than what money can by. Pals, know your onions and no one can intimidate you.

  2. simba
    November 23, 08:47 Reply

    Rightly stated, human sexuality is very complex.. mainly controlled by 2 factors. Environment and genetics. U see same sex is very common in an enclosure filled with same gender, like boarding school, military schools, ships and prisons. Thts the environmental influence, some when they leave such facility never engage in such activity.. while some continues.. some authorities in human sexuality argue tht those tht continue also have the gene make up and the exposure horned it. While some individuals never even seen gay porn or ever been in an environment tht may suggest same sex, yet they turn out flaming gay, this is gene at work.. like I said earlier sexuality is complex it’s still a grey area and an attractive field for more researches. Its all of different shades, u exhibit the part tht hit u..

  3. gad
    November 23, 08:52 Reply

    It’s an indictment on all advocates of asylum seeking and those who see nothing good about Africa and in Africans that the setting of this encounter was western and the characters whites. Hmmm,the perfect, advance,infallible whites! ! !

    • pinkpanthertb
      November 23, 08:55 Reply

      Gad and his relentless crusade that the West is just as homophobic as Africa.

    • Dennis Macauley
      November 23, 09:46 Reply

      The person that this shade is directed at is very capable!

      So ama sit and watch

      *sips coffee*

      • gad
        November 23, 10:58 Reply

        Hahaha. No shades intended. I was only trying to assert that ignorants and homophobes exist in all climes and not only Africa

    • Khaleesi
      November 23, 14:54 Reply

      Gad hunny, ***strokes your head like a lil 5yr old*** when r u going to ever understand my point? And yes, when will you learn that u CANT shade me, no hun. Yes homophobes exist all across the globe, but you’ll agree with me that in certain parts of the world, they are considered a minority scorned and looked uppn with disdain as the rest of the society including the law enforcement and law making bodies are all for the advancement and protection of the rights of gays. Surely, you’re able to absorb enough of the news to know what’s happening all around the world including in the Church which you cherish so much ***shudder***… while in this part of the world, ignorance and hatred which fuel homophobia are adopted as official state policy and mixed with the harmful brew of opium that all you religitards love to imbibe …
      I still firmly stamd by my assertion, if you wish to remain here you must ‘fall in line’ somehow, else the only option is grab your things and hop on the next jet – as you just will not/cannot fimd happiness or peace here as a gay man. Now run along, I’ve made my point clear i believe ***sashays away***

      • gad
        November 23, 15:47 Reply

        Hahaha.u seem to love this asylum seeking so much as if it’s ur pet project. I wasn’t throwing shades at all @ u,dear. You are not alone in this. Many Nigerians including members of my family see asylum seeking as an easy escape from many of the issues confronting us.* runs along while wishing that the stroking of my head continues*

  4. Kryss S
    November 23, 10:25 Reply

    Y didn’t d mom drive her car into a tree? I thought she’d rather die than live wit a gay son. Lol!
    Reverse this to an African setting nd this boy is on d first flight to Synagogue after serious flogging sessions on getting home!
    Knowledge they say is power nd no knowledge is actually a waste, just know when and how to apply it! Nice argument boy nd good for you that u read(which most Africans don’t). If there isn’t a gay gene, is there a straight gene?

    Happy Sunday Y’all!

  5. Max
    November 23, 10:27 Reply

    “I’m not changing who I am.” He can deal with it or become a smaller part of my life. So we’re seeing how that plays out”..
    That was my favorite line…

    • Khaleesi
      November 23, 15:03 Reply

      That’s the exact same policy I’ve adopted nowadays as much as i can. If you can’t deal with who i am, then you have no place in my life!!

  6. Khaleesi
    November 23, 15:12 Reply

    Its not hard to see the link between highly educated societies and open mindedness/tolerance as well as the strong link between ignorance and homophobia, when you add the religious hypocrisy that exists in generous amounts in these parts then you start to understand why we have the messy situation that exists here …

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