LETTER TO MY FUTURE WIFE
Dear future wife, I come from the past to warn you about the terrible mistake you’re about to make – marrying me.
I’m not going to be your knight in a shining armor, or your “help” in fixing up things in the house. I’m not going to love you, at least not in the way you’ll want to be loved. Even if I do, it’ll be a brother-sister love. In your eyes, I’ll be the man of your dreams, but don’t be fooled; I’m going to be your worst nightmare and you, my bane.
We’re never going to have that wild spontaneous sex you read about and watch in Hollywood movies; ours will be more like a zombie mating with a corpse, strictly for reproduction purposes. There’ll be no kissing, no foreplay, no romance. You’ll often get horny and I won’t be there to satisfy you. Our lovemaking will be vapid and frigid like a storm in a cold November.
I’ll often get drunk before having intercourse with you, so I won’t have to endure the torture of the horrendous experience. So I’ll forget what happened, so I’ll be able to breathe throughout the day without feeling like throwing up or jumping in front of a moving car.
You’re never going to experience orgasm with me, yeah, that elusive female orgasm which only male experts or expensive dildos know how to conjure up. I’m no pussy expert and I’m not interested in being one. I’d rather slam my tongue against a door than think about it.
I’m not going to cuddle you at night when you’re cold. I like sleeping alone. You’ll often feel alone and unloved; well, honey, you’d be right to feel so. The smell of your pussy makes me wanna wish my life away, it puts me in a state of agony and despair. Touching you sends chills down my spine, it feels as if I’m touching a life-sized serpent with legs and a vagina.
I’m not going to kiss you goodbye when you’re stepping out of the house, nor am I going to kiss you goodnight when you’re about to sleep. I’m often going to be emotionally detached and you’re going to wonder why. You’ll try to make me let you in, but I’ll keep shutting you out.
When you eventually give birth to our children, I’ll love them more than I love you. They’ll become my pet project, to take my attention away from living with you.
You’d often wonder why I look at your brother Toby when he comes to visit; he has nice cakes and a chiseled look, that’s why. Yeah, honey, I eat ass for breakfast and cock for dinner.
Honey, by now you must think I’m heartless, but I assure you I’m not. If the reverse was the case, I’m sure you’d do worse. I mean you couldn’t even stay a week with your sister without blowing up the roof with your ranting and petty bickering, let alone spending your entire life with another girl you’re supposed to love and fuck.
So, my darling, I implore you to consider the epistle above, and if after it all, you still decide to proceed with the marriage, then fine. It’s your funeral. However, when you eventually get tired of putting up with my impossible attitude (as I’m sure you will), you can always find a divorce lawyer, and I’ll be waiting, preparing for my “single ladies” routine in court.
Yours Sincerely
Max
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77 Comments
Pete
January 23, 05:17This is extreme.
pinkpanthertb
January 23, 05:19Is it, really?
obatala
January 23, 05:22“let alone spending your entire life with
another girl you’re supposed to love and fuck.”
.
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its such a touching piece. I tried not to laugh. I swear max. I really tried. until I saw that line. still laughing.
Khristopher B!
January 23, 05:39This is false jare. Yes the fucking might not be “made in heaven” but in terms of showing love, whoever marries me will NEVER lack in that dept. You people should stop painting extreme pictures as if we all are totally allergic to women, because believe it or not 80% of you reading this will certainly get married someday if you remain in the country, unless you do it like “Bisi Alimi” or leave the country.
pinkpanthertb
January 23, 05:48Khris, you do know the meaning of satire, don’t you?
Lanre Swagg
January 23, 09:10…Charlie Hebdo?
Khaleesi
January 23, 14:52Yea, you’ll show her love and when she needs sex its love that’ll sex her abi? Good luck!
nate
January 23, 22:49True talk bro i dont see myself marrying a man as far as i am in this country. You guys really need to stop painting Women like a plague cos they are not. And yes most of us here will get married to a woman so you better start getting use to it…
Gad
January 24, 05:39More like a necessary bitter pill that must be swallowed?
Mercury
January 23, 05:42Ok, I know this is a serious matter…..but its hilarious as fuck……of all people to stare at, its her brother Toby?, now Max I knew u were mean but this is pure evil. I’m sure u don’t mean most if the things you wrote in here.
Oluwadamilare Okoro
January 23, 06:00Hmmmmmm
Dennis Macauley
January 23, 06:29Max! You silly silly boy!
I laughed really hard reading this!
But on a serious note any gay man who has an aversion to women (which a lot do have) should not have to put himself through this.
I have dated women, I had the phase when I was convincing myself and other that I was straight and I dated lots of women. The sex was good, but it was like a chore; like weeding the garden or doing the dishes, u finish wipe the sweat off your face and jump in the shower!
I never want to live my life that way!
Absalom
January 23, 06:38I’m sorry, doing dishes is not boring. 😐
Dennis Macauley
January 23, 06:45Absalom? Doing the dishes is not boring? I’m getting a sexual vibe out of this!
You
Man
Kitchen Sink
China falling an breaking
Orgasm!
****picks race****
Oluwadamilare Okoro
January 23, 06:57Smh. Thirst.
Gad
January 23, 17:44That you feel that way doesn’t mean others do.
KingBey
January 23, 07:07Na wah. why bother to marry at all? as long as my wife lives and respect me, I will be the best husband she can ever think of…and yeah the sex will be great !
KingBey
January 23, 07:08*loves*
Lord II
January 24, 01:06Hear hear!!!
Gad
January 23, 17:45Countless likes
#TeamKizito
January 23, 07:09Hmmm.
Kenny Badmus though.
(This hate for vagina, is it “heterophobia”?)
Absalom
January 23, 07:33Nope. It’s sexuality.
Straight guys don’t like dick and straight girls don’t like pussy and lesbians don’t like dick and gays don’t like pussy.
To your tents, oh Israel.
Dennis Macauley
January 23, 07:55Absalom!
Where can I kiss you for this?
Absalom
January 23, 08:50Here. *points at pierced nipple*
Chizzie
January 23, 07:26Like we’ve learned as regards the Kenny Badmus issue, never go into a marriage because the other partner feels you can change or that he/she can “put up” with you. Do not marry because society expects you to. Marry because you are genuinely in love with a person and the person loves you just as much. Do not marry because its an eventuality like uv been led to believe.
You do not have to marry if you do not want to, especially if society doesn’t allow you marry who you want.
“You do not have to marry a woman” That should be every Nigerian gay guys mantra
Max
January 23, 07:37**100 likes…. Preach!!!
Khaleesi
January 23, 14:54The society has far more power and influence over you and your happiness than you can ever begin to imagine … eventually they get their way or they continue to batter & rip @ u till ur a broken putrid mess… best option; flee … the longer u stay, the harder it gets …
Gad
January 23, 17:48One day you will come up with the idea of a support project for potential asylum seekers. *runs for my dear life*
bluespicereturns
January 29, 04:21Maazi Chizzie, you have spoken well. Elders, do you not agree?
Ace
January 23, 07:34I have had countless girls falling for me. I believe I will be a perfect husband (like many of us here) but we will have to find a way to have sex. I still cringe at the sight of that multilayered yamayama thing. I guess Viagra will be my bedside pill.
Paul
January 23, 09:16Viagra is good
D side effects r better.
I hope we don’t hv to break a dick to close a casket anywayz.
trystham
January 23, 09:24bwahahahahahaha #sigh *snorts*
Mercury
January 23, 21:10Oh man lurrrdd!!!!, this is tots hilare.
doropaul
January 23, 12:44Touche!!! Viagra will be the saving grace of many gay dudes. On another note, why is the vagina very ugly jeez?
Deola
January 23, 07:38…you can always find a divorce lawyer, and I’ll be waiting, preparing for my “single ladies” routine in court.
This part got me!!! ROTFL.
On a more serious note, marriage isn’t for me, its not a sexuality or gay thing, it just a me thing. I don’t think I would have gotten married if I were straight.
That being said, women don’t repulse me, the vagina doesn’t repulse me either it simply confuses me (its got to much going on at the same time) but i think women are beautiful beings who deserved to be loved and respected…
In the words of Cam from modern family… ‘I think you’re the complete package, i just happen to prefer someone who has one’.
DeadlyDarius
January 23, 11:30Modern Family! That’s my show….Cam is hilarious but I love Mitch’s sarcasm
pinkpanthertb
January 23, 12:14Oh yes! That guy’s sarcasm totally rocks
Mercury
January 23, 21:13His name is MITCH(Male-bitch)…..sarcasm comes naturally.
uju
January 23, 07:53Hian. If you feel this way, then perhaps you should be kind enough to yourself and women out there. Don’t get married.
Colossus
January 23, 08:18Hahahaha. I smiled hard at this (laughter is a punishable offence in the office meeting I’m presently in). Good one, beautifully written.
I actually never thought I’ll be able to give a woman pleasure in the bedroom, I’ve been proven wrong. I guess its not just about the dick slamming, work that her body till she cries “Jah Jehovah”.
Now if I can get the damn dick to get erect. *slams forehead* Oh that’s true, Viagra.
simba
January 23, 08:31Hahahahahahhahahaahah, Max ur so evil, why put her through tht agony, remember it can mess with her sanity,leading to self loathing, self hate, suicide.. Dear do like me, brace de odds, u can still have plenty kids without a wife, thereby still being happy with urself and still not messing an innocent lady’s life…
NB.. a girl I ditched last yr, even de mum called me, am sure someday she will thank. Me,.. she is so good and innocent, I couldn’t put her through this mess
Khaleesi
January 23, 08:45Lmao … Max!!!! Several parts of this piece had me choking back laughter … i wished i could somehow meet your ‘dear future wife’ and warn her to take off her shoes and run head over heels … kai!!
As Krystopher pointed out, a large majority of us here will eventually ‘conform’ … its an obvious fact … the vicious homophobia if this society will ensure that. As always i truly cant feel any pity for those women who fall into the arms of a gay man, they are part and parcel of the creation of the current climate and as such its only logical that a few of them will form the collateral damage in the crossfire …
Vaginas make my skin crawl and break out in goosebumps ***chugs from bottle of vodka****
Pete
January 23, 09:31If you want something & go for it,are you CONFORMING to societal demands?
Gad
January 23, 18:05Nna ask me. Society knows that there are people who are not cut out for marriage. I know straight men who never got married or who divorced as soon as they got married and remained single for life. Ditto for women. Why should one go into marriage to please another? If you don’t want to call it cowardice, you will surely call it hypocrisy
TheDarkestRaven
January 23, 09:34Ok! You got a smile from me… Nicely written and I find it funny. Satire indeed!
Tony Odekunle-Brown
January 23, 11:14I laughed hard as I read this. Unfortunately, the society we live in is going to force some of us to get married.
As for me, so long as I remain gay, I am not marrying any woman.
Life is not that hard
courtsofdomasiobo
January 23, 11:58ALL THESE GUYS TALKING “MY WIFE WILL HAVE THE BEST SEX” HOW MANY OF YOU WOULD BE FAITHFUL TO YOUR SO CALLED WIVES? THE SANCTITY OF MARRIAGE SHOULD STOP BEEN ABUSED AND SEEING WOMEN AS A BABY MAKING TOOL MUST STOP. AM JUST BLOODY SICK OF BLOODY TWO FACED SCUMBAGS. THOUGH I KNOW GENUIE BISEXUALS (EMOTIONAL,MENTAL AND SOUL CONNECTION TO BOTH SEXES) EXIST.
pinkpanthertb
January 23, 12:17So you’re excusing bisexuals but are sick of married gay men? #AskingForAnybodysPeaceOfMind
Colossus
January 23, 12:42Did you not know? Bisexuals are more superior
pinkpanthertb
January 23, 18:48Hahahahahahahahaa!!! Aswearigod @Colossus
DeadlyDarius
January 23, 17:32Colossus, hahahahahaha *spills coffee all over my briefs*
Mercury
January 23, 21:17Colossus, this shady new you is yummy.
bluespicereturns
January 29, 04:28You seem angry. Here, have a snickers bar.
Gad
January 29, 08:55How kind!!!
Lanre Swagg
January 23, 12:45…the way we talk about women in this group. I wonder what the lesbians amongst us think. The feminists among them. Usually quiet. Not that its a very friendly group for females, is it …
Max
January 23, 13:20Honey, I’m a feminist.. This is a satirical piece.. Just laugh if you find it funny and move on..
Lanre Swagg
January 23, 14:39When CharlieHebdo happened I thought the terrorists were crazy but if I was a woman and I read this I would not enjoy the joke.
MacArdry
January 23, 14:14This blog was never meant for the female folks,or so I’ve been made to understand over time by threads and comments on here.
Heck,bisexuals are regularly demeaned and made to feel like bats here.I need not talk of people of faith,they must be the lowest of lows.
DeadlyDarius
January 23, 17:35Yes because PP has installed a filter which skims off all lesbian, bisexual or religious people opinion pieces. That sounds about right
pinkpanthertb
January 23, 18:46Hahahahahahahaa! Its not a filter, DD. Its a firewall.
Gad
January 23, 18:10Wetin man go do my brother
tobby
January 23, 13:39Uhm, maybe apart from the sex part, most of these things seem like basic things. Like kissing her goodbye before she leaves for work?..
You’re gay not a fucking anti-woman, if that’s a word
tobby
January 23, 13:40Except of course the whole of this is a joke and I’ve lot my sense of humor
Bane
January 23, 16:40Jezees! HAHAHA! I loved reading this.
The wicked veracity of this piece was deliciously evil.
Gad
January 23, 17:39I hope we won’t hear tomorrow that this letter was actually the leaked letter that K. Badmus wrote his ex-wife before they got married. On a more serious note, where you paid to write this? *runs away*
Max
January 24, 05:13Dear, such a piece doesn’t have a price.
Gad
January 24, 05:36Hmm. Ok. Kam were ujo kwere
DeadlyDarius
January 23, 17:40I thought the way it was over the top would be a teensy clue that it wasn’t meant to be taken with a straight face. Max maybe next time u shld put a disclaimer at the top saying: THIS PIECE IS MEANT TO BE SATIRICAL….I DO NOT THINK FEMALES ARE ABSURDITIES OF NATURE
pinkpanthertb
January 23, 18:46As in eh. Lmao!!!
Lanre Swagg
January 23, 19:53The only thing satirical about this post is its tone, not its content. It’s ‘humorous’ style barely masks its brutally frank misogyny, which is entirely consistent with the trend of thinking by the majority of contributors here.
Max
January 24, 05:14Honey, let it go.
DeadlyDarius
January 23, 19:59There is a certain trend I’ve noticed on KD and specifically on this comment thread: and that is people complaining of marginalization of those who are not gay. I ask: how many of these bisexual, lesbian and religious people wrote articles or forcefully propounded their views on life, love and sexuality on this blog?
The complaints I would like to see is ‘I sent a piece to PP 2 weeks ago yet he hasn’t posted them’ not sitting back to whine that bisexual ppl r treated like bats.
News flash: PP, DM and Max are gay and would write their pieces from a gay perspective…they cannot speak like u because they are not you. If u want to be heard, dust off ur pen and write ish urself
#MyTwoPence
Max
January 24, 05:15Tell them.
pinkpanthertb
January 24, 05:27Bless you, DD, for that. I have always said it. If you don’t like what’s being written, make yourself heard. Write yours. It’s really that simple.
Lord II
January 24, 01:30Max you just used satire to mask your innate belief and conviction about the woman!!! We ain’t fooled!
However, please don’t be fooled….the woman who you will one day call your wife may grow so into you and be so close to you that she will become like your own body….er you may want to rethink some of the things you had penned there my bra!
Max
January 24, 05:16Lol
DeadlyDarius
January 24, 06:47Na u wan give am wife na….lol