Telling your parents you’re engaged to marry should be a joyous moment. However, it wasn’t so for one man who accepted a marriage proposal from his boyfriend, and was then faced with having to tell his homophobic mother.
Despite already knowing her views, social media influencer Henry Jimenez still wanted his Mexican mother to accept his wedding plans and consider attending the ceremony. He filmed himself calling his mom…. and her disappointed reaction to the news.
Jimenez re-shared the video to TikTok and then Instagram earlier this week. The conversation is in Spanish but he provided English subtitles.
“I told my mom that I got engaged with the man of my life,” he said in the accompanying caption. “Many of you don’t have tik tok so I’m also posting this video here. This as I said IS SO HARD for me to share, but today I got a message from a kid telling how much he felt inspired after watching this and told his parents his biggest secret. That makes me so happy and makes it all worth it. What are we doing in this world if we are not being truly happy.”
In the video, Jimenez nervously informs mom he has some news.
“What do you mean you’re getting married?” his mom replies on hearing about his engagement.
“Do you know that’s a sin in front of the eyes of God,” she goes on to say, informing her son that he will never be able to enter Heaven because he sleeps with men.
“You’re so wrong,” she says after he tells her he’s not going to change. “That guy has blinded you. He doesn’t know God and he doesn’t want anything to do with God. You broke my heart in a thousand pieces every time you talk to me about that. You make me sad. You make me sicker than I already am. You. The day I die, you are gonna be the one who kills me because I’m always thinking about the stuff you’ve done wrong.”
By this stage, Jimenez is in tears but she doesn’t stop. “You sin. Why did you change God for money? Just like Judas.”
She goes on to blast the Pope, who has himself voiced support for same-sex couples being allowed to enter civil partnerships. “The Pope is with Satan. I know who the Pope is: A satanic someone who will never see God’s kingdom if he doesn’t repent.
“Think really hard about what you are doing. Think about it and don’t sin for Satan.”
Jimenez, knowing that continuing the conversation at this stage is pointless, quickly brings the call to an end.
Jimenez is engaged to partner Kasey Kerbox. He shares images of the two of them on his social media. Kerbox shared a video of his proposal last week, which took place under a glacier in Alaska.
Here’s wishing Henry and Kasey a lifetime of happiness and adventures together. And that Henry’s mother eventually comes around.
Sighs, what his mum said is just cruel and unnecessary emotional blackmail.
However, he knows his mum is homophobic and terribly so… why record it for the world to see telling her something that would certainly bring out the worst fears of homophobic folks. He knew she wouldn’t suddenly change and be unconditionally loving….. so what was the point?
Maybe it’s just me but i learn to accept people for who they are and keep my distance when necessary. I suppose we will always want parents love (if you had good parents).
I sha wish him an awesome married life with his partner, it’s a beautiful thing to see two men embark on that journey.
😂😂😂
I thought so too about the compromising pictures, if all these were online to the view of the public eye, I guess his mum already knew what the next stage was for her beloved son, (which was) marrying his boyfriend.
Homophobic mothers could be the worst some times. I learnt long ago how best & peaceful it was to keep these issues to one’s self, because just the word “gay” from one’s mouth to family could cause a generational contention that will be almost impossible to repair.
All the best to him and his fiancé. 🤞🏾
Nna eh. my exacts thoughts when I first saw the news. Looks like a poorly thought out publicity stunt to me
I wish he didn’t post this simply because as recovering fanatics, we know just how hard it is to break those chains of mental slavery. He knows who is mother is and how strongly she is held bound by these beliefs- so strongly her maternal instincts don’t even kick in. We’ve all been there, being wicked to ourselves because one of many old books said we were broken.
I would advise him to focus on planning his wedding and marriage then love, no, truly love and feel for his mother. There is no room for anger or even sorrow here as it would only cause him the same fear and manipulation that has beguiled her. Let him do all he can, while respecting his husband to be and their family, to maintain a relationship with her and not tell her anything about his life other than that which she is ready to hear. No lies, no pretence, just healthy boundaries.
I feel for both of them. And I wish him a very happy married life.
It’s her stupid tears and emotional blackmail for me. Talmbout if I die, you’re the one that killed me.
No, bish!
I didn’t!
You killed yourself by not opening your eyes to see that your son is gay and is happy, by expecting him to change himself to fit with your plans for his life, by being so much of a fucking bigot that a simple thing like an engagement is enough to send you spiraling into a tirade about hell and pouring out hate on people living their lives, people who don’t know you exist.
If you like, change
If you like, don’t change.
The young man is going to be happy with his husband and in his life.
What matters is that he and his Partner are happy.
She’s the sad one.
She’s the sick one.
If she dies, it’s on her. They’ll be together regardless.
Ugh. Homophobia is such an ailment 😫
She still loves her son from what I can see, just that she’s homophobic. It will take time but the mother will eventually come around to, at the very least, respect her son’s relationship.
But that pic of both of them smooching under the sea really doesn’t help speed up the acceptance.