Good day, community.
My name is MARO ODHIGBA and I am based in Abuja. I was tagged on Kito Diaries in November 2018 as a kito perpetrator.
I have no excuses to make regarding this. I am gay. My parents are pastors, and I sing in the choir. I have been stealing from infancy. I left my first university, Bingham University, because of queer-related issues. And for five years after that, I was made to do everything on my own. There was no support system coming from home and the only family I had, which is the gay community, seemed to me like it was a competition I had to come out on top. I love sex, I love to go on hookups, but the shame of asking these guys I hook up with for transport fare when I visit them, considering the reactions I get sometimes when I do ask, caused me to start stealing from their wallets.
The story that was posted here isn’t entirely true. I took only five thousand naira from the victim’s wallet, and the rest of the story was concocted by the guy to add to my sins against him. I have kitoed just one person in my entire life, and that was because he told me he wanted to practise scat with me. In my mind, I thought that was him trying to use me for ritual, so I invited him over and robbed him of his valuables. Some other guys have asked me over to their place, and I did steal from their wallets too.
When the kito alert was posted about me in 2018, I didn’t check myself. I didn’t take it as a reason to understand how self destructive I was being. I continued on my path and didn’t stop stealing from people. Even though a couple of friends who saw the post tried to talk to me, I didn’t listen to them and I didn’t think I was wrong.
However, I am doing this now because I have made the conscious effort to stop. Because I have come to that point in my life when I have been arrested by my conscience. Because I am indeed deeply very sorry.
I want to sincerely apologise to this community for everything.
I am sorry.
I did all I did intentionally but without thinking about what it would cost me in the future.
Please, this family should forgive me for everything.
I am back in the university. I am in my third year and I am a change in process. I have learnt my lessons and I am very willing to make amends. If you are reading this and I wronged you during any encounter you’ve had with me, please forgive me. And sincerely, any effort made by this family to make me a better person will be highly appreciated.
I swear to you that I sincerely and genuinely regret all my actions. I swear to you that there will never be another story of me stealing from or kitoing any members of my community anymore. Should there ever be, please use the story and nail me to the cross with your harsh judgments and resolve to never believe the good about me. I say this because I am positive that I will never return to my old ways. I however know that the road to this community trusting me ever again will be long and hard and maybe even unattainable. But I pray that it be a destination that will be gotten to nonetheless.
For everything, I am sorry.
I am sorry.
Thank you.
Written by Maro Odhigba
Maro, there is no justification for your behaviour. If you’re sorry, you’re sorry no but. The fact you have to explain the reasons for your actions from the beginning makes this apology whatever half baked. May be you’re indeed sorry, may be you regretted your actions but I have difficulty accepting this apology.
Good morning pinky there is another account on fb by the name James Lloyd which seems to post KD stories…do check it out
I’m sorry but a public apology for a thing like this does not a forgiveness get. You not only make a public apology, but you also do the work of reaching out to every individual you wronged and asking them individually for their own forgiveness too. That’s how you truly make peace with the universe. Apologise to the gay community, done. But also, have the uncomfortable conversation with the people you wronged and make it right with them.
A Step in the right direction if truly you are remorseful. yeah that’s the best to do. make amends with persons you had the encounters with. I find this apology preposterous, anyways i reserve my comments. Have a blessed life
I just feel numb. I don’t understand why people do what they do. No one has bullet proof around his or her heart. These injuries are internal and they never heal. We don’t have respect for people feelings at all in this community. I am sorry but not sorry for not feeling sorry at all.
There should be a video to this not just a write up. So we have a clear evidence of his actions. If he messes up again such can be used against him even in the future. Anyone can come up here with a good and well articulated write up. But no clear evidence of being remorseful. Take a good example from the case of the slapping Senator. It shows no one… I say no one is above the law. Not even in this community.
I wouldn’t judge you.
If anything I am glad within my heart that one person have been saved and left his Kito ways, that means a couple of people even up to their hundreds will be saved just because you have changed.
Like the parable of the prodigal son, I am glad you found your way back to your senses. Forgiveness will be in the hands of those you wronged. They could either give it or not.
And to those who don’t see the need for him to explain some of his actions as appalling as they were then, I think it’s necessary at times so as to draw in the readers attention to the motives why he did what he did then, that is not to say he is justifying what he did but rather making us see what led him to commit the crime at that time when the reason seemed valid to him irregardless of how atrocious the crime was.
This would rather discourage anyone reading this who finds themselves in similar predicaments not to consider going on the same path as the writer did, and if this could persuade just one soul to change then it is in the right direction.
Oh, please!
Drop dead in some godforsaken bush somewhere!
The very nerve of you!
To dare prance in here with your hoity-toity ‘I’ve never kitoed anyone save one who wanted to do scat with me’ gibberish.
You’re a disease!
And, no, you’re not sorry.
Being sorry would be you owning your side of the road, seeking to make things right. Not coming here to give us clarifications no one or their dead grandparents asked for or give a flying fuck about.
Oga, swerve!
You are too embarrassed to ask for transport fare but not embarrassed to steal?
This!!!
In as much as I wasn’t one of your victims and so can’t actually say I forgive you; in as much as majority of the comments here are nailed to doubting the authenticity of your apology and impaling you altogether, I’ll take it in good faith.
Glad you finally found the light and are seeking to amend your ways. Keep living mate, hoping you indeed live up to the vows you’ve made.
I dunno, considering the Nigerian road to popularity factor, which do you think he’d do? Tell the queer community to GTFOH or Apologize (fake sounding as it seems) as he has done?
As far as the entire post is concerned, Talk is Cheap
Looooool. Perspective is everything😂😂😂😂
Please let’s not believe him too soon. He might just want to be given an opportunity to wreck cause more harm
Bullshit!! who d hell is buying this justification in disguise of apology??
People do change….someone who was once toxic can make efforts and drop that toxicity. What was learnt can also be unlearnt. You cannot read people’s minds or tell their intentions. The best you can do is guage their intentions from their actions, and even though this is a first step, it shows a heart that is in the right place. I think it’s okay to demonize people who commit vitriolic acts and blame it on their situation but it’s also important to realise that some of us never had to even think about those choices because of our material condition or other factors. He has said he’s sorry, it’s an important first step. There would be no point for different metrics of punishment if all immoral acts were considered irredeemable. Maro!! Reach out to those you have wronged as sm1 said in the comment section and make amends while understanding they’re under no compulsion to forgive you.
This!!!
Some gurls are so judgmental & looking to draw blood haha. If he really wrote this and is truly sorry and repentant, that’s an improvement. No one is a saint anyway.
Bullshit.
Reach out to everyone and make amends. Not to write some sour tale.
Shebi when they search for you name online this pops up and it hinders your progress abi???
Rejoiner
Please google his name. Seems like he is floating a music career of some sort and this will be a stumbling block.
We see you, sound cloud account, we see that this is a pisspoor attempt at clearing your name.