My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and half. We’ve never had sex. Not once.
At first, we were just taking our time, to be sure it wasn’t purely sexual between us.
Or so I thought.
After the first three months, my boyfriend moved to another town and so our relationship has been long distance since then. And there’s been little or no time to visit. The last time we met was like five months ago.
With exams over, I had to visit. Since I got here, I’ve noticed he’s been acting weird but because he’s been complaining about being tired, I thought that was just it.
That is, until last night – when he told me he’d realized he’s not sexually attracted to me. And that he’s known it for a while.
I love him so much and I know he loves me but I’m wondering, what options do we have left, asides a break up?
Submitted by Mebi
None!
Say goodbye to him.
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What stupid sort of body shaming is that?
LOL! you didn’t have to say it na
LMFAO
This!!!! ?
He’s not.
But even if he was.
That’s a really insensitive thing to ask.
Agape love relationship. I’m dying ???
Bye boy…sorry , I ain’t sorry.
He is not into you, move on.
Are u fat??
Which one is he loves you but is not sexually attracted to you? Is this an agape love relationship? Biko boy bye!
You can’t force sexual attraction. Just move on man. Sorry ?
This is a new one sha. Why are men like this??? ???
Hmmm. This is something new. You’ve actually been bro zoned
Wait!
Are you kidney me!?
???
Someone just told you he’s not attracted to you and still call him boyfriend and looking for other options apart from break up!
There was never a relationship if you ask me.
Sigh
If there was attraction and no sex it’s something you both can work on!
But with this please move on.
No sex relationships are so weird to me.
You could’ve saved yourselves the trouble if you had sex a year and half ago. Just saying…
Sidenote: I’m a strong advocate of let’s have sex first to get all hormonal imbalances off the table, then we can make sensible decisions on whether we wanna remain in our lives or not.
Where did we all get off thinking sex was the defining factor in the workings of a relationship? Sure it’s important but come on arent there other factors to be considered?
Call me a green eyed virgin but I still think it’s possible to be with someone for an extended period and not do sex. If he doesnt mind, y’all can work something out. If you want to screw him but he wants to screw other people, consider an open relationship.
Or y’all can just be friends since there isnt that much at stake.
Mebi, here’s a few things you might co
Boy Bye!!!! That’s what you should say to the negro. For me it’s just not that he’s not attracted to you it’s that he doesn’t even value your friendship and for me that is worse.
I’ve been bro-zoned by my best friend, someone who cried over phone with me. Some rships aren’t to be. Don’t force them.
Its time to move on. No other option. K
Have you broken up with him already? You’ll find someone who doesn’t only want you for the title of boyfriend but because he is attracted to you.
What kind of rubbish is that? You claim we are in a relationship but you’re not attracted to me. What am I? A logo? Tcheww!
Let things take its natural course. You can remain friends with him but don’t cajole him for sex. If it eventually happens, fine. If not, make do with the friendship. It is not all about sex. Funny enough, the guys I have had long and meaningful friendships with are those I haven’t had sex with.
The fact that none of you even considered the fact that the boyfriend might be asexual… It’s still LGBTQIA
Mebi, ask him if he thinks he is asexual then decide if you want to stay or go.